I’m in a pretty confusing situation. Here’s a little background to add some context.
So I’ve been with my girlfriend for 6 months, she was in my friendship group before we got together, she began to like me and after a month or two I decided to give it a go, and I completely totally fell in love with her. We were great, however since we were at the end of a university semester it was time to go away for summer for 3 and a half months. We dealt with it really well and managed to see each other fairly frequently.
Now I’m aware that the honeymoon period has ended, and all the ebbs and flows that go with a relationship.
So anyway we got back to uni last week, and it felt kind of strange.
i’ll cut to the chase, so we went out separately on the Saturday, and we were hopefully gonna meet up in the club, I get there (and I felt she was being a bit distant, but that was just me being paranoid after us being apart for so long) I see her dance with some guys and I yeah I got a bit jealous, turns out she knew them and I felt a bit of a mug, we had an emotional drunk fall out but made up.
However the issue lies in whats happening now,I felt something had changed and confronted it when we were going to the student union on Monday, and she said she’d felt pressured by a date night and commitments for us to do as a couple while we were away in the summer, she also felt confused by how id acted on saturday with being jealous. I completely understood, i’m quite a proactive person and had a lot more alone time in the summer whereas she didnt, she was a lot more social, so making plans for things to do together was my way of dealing with feeling a tad lonely (my job was quite a lonely one). Anyway I understood this pressure and explained itd stop, but anyway the next day when we tried to sort it out, the real issue came up, she felt something had changed.
I tried to understand if she thought I had changed (which im certain I hadn’t) and she said no, it wasnt to do with me, the relationship was different, we both got quite upset, and she really does love me, but she said theres was something there. I suggested to give her a break for however long she needed, a day, a week a month whatever to get it all sorted and clear headed. But today she told me she wanted to try otherwise shed regret it, which is what I want I love her so so so much and just want to be with her and be like it was. However i feel like she needs some space, and the only way she’ll truly get a clear head is by not having me around. Trust me I hate this idea but it hurts even more for the relationship to be this way.
What should I do? Should I keep trying like I want to? Or break it off, and just hope she realizes that the only thing that matters is that we love each other and that’s all we need?
Personally I just feel that its feeling weird because we argued when we first met up stupidly, we’d looked forward to being back all summer and its an anti climax, and its just generally something silly, i mean we’ve not even properly chilled together for more than an hour since she got back (5 days ago). I feel we just need to spend sometime together and it’ll go back to the way it was. But I definitely cant ignore her,and if she feels like something serious has changed then It’s important.
What should I do? Should I try? Or give her some space? Its breaking my heart to be like this, and I hate being so damn vulnerable, I’m a strong individual usually but this has just knocked me down.