I am struggeling with myself in this matter and I would love to hear out some of your opinions about my situation.
I went on holidays about 5 weeks ago, and I got to learn an awesome girl there. I am Dutch and she is German. (the distance is no problem, just in case you’re wondering).
We have been dating for 5 weeks now and because her age (she is 27 and I am 24) she wants to be 100% sure when she will commit to someone again because this should be the last and final one. She is very open and she tells me everything that is on her mind. After 2 weeks of dating she told me this and that she needed some time before deciding it. After being together for 4 weeks I said that we didn’t had to put a label on our “dating/relationship” because it’d give her pressure and that is something she doesn’t want right now. She also told me that because we agreed to do whatever we like because we are not in a relationship that she had a thing going with another guy but she broke that off because she felt like she was cheating on me and she was really in love with me. she even said: “I kinda think I love you” All of this is very nice to hear of course (besides the other dudes part) but we are still not in a relationship and this gives me doubts.
I have this experience before when my ex and she didn’t want to be in a relationship yet because it was too fast after her old relationship but she did it anyway because we were dating for 3 months and she felt sorry for me and then dumped me for another guy… even though she said she was inlove with me.
of course I cannot compare two girls with each other and they are definitely not alike. Even though I have the feeling that I am walking towards the same destiny again… and I don’t want this.
So what do I really want to ask? The girl that I am seeing now, which I am madly inlove with… should I confront her about this? This would mean pressure on her side which she doesn’t want or would I just wait a little longer and respect her whishes? I don’t care to wait, because I know she is worth it. but on the otherhand I might feel she would slip away like this….
Could anyone give me some good advice please about what you’d do in my situation? If you need some more info, don’t be afraid to ask. I could really use some good advice!
Thanks in advance everyone!