Should I be worried by this response?

Yesterday, my boyfriend pulled a Houdini act, and basically disappeared off the face of the earth for a full day. He didn’t get on Facebook or Skype and his cell phone was dead, so texts didn’t get to him, and calls went straight to voicemail.

Acting the part of the spazzing worried girlfriend, I called his phone a lot ( try a few times an hour), cuz ya never know when he’ll actually go plug it in. Still nothing up until I fell asleep. I even contacted his best friend, whom I’m friends with too, and he said he was.trying to reach.him to, with no success either

According to him, my boyfriend has pulled this Houdini act before, and has gone as far as walking 5 1/2 miles through Mesa and hobo territory , in the dark, with a dead phone.

Once I woke up today, I saw two texts from my boyfriend on my cell that read ” Can’t Talk” and “We’ll talk tomorrow”. These came in at 12:30 midnight and 1:15am. I’m happy he answered, but a response n like that after a whole day of silence concerns me.

Should I be worried by his response?

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BlackPegasus

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I would be very concerned. I recommend you sit him down and you help him figure out a better outlet than shutting out the world and just falling away. Be sure to also express your concern and make it your main point. One way you could help him is by ensuring him that you are there for him and that you will be there if there's something on his mind.

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Mr. Blue Sky

I would be worried if I were you. That's scary stuff and he could've been in some serious trouble! I think before anything you just need to find out why he did it. I understand getting away from everyone for a little while, I'm sure we all could use a little of that, but middle of the night?? That would scare me.

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Savannah

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your worry is justified indeed i would shit a brick if that happened to me, pardon the langue.however your boyfriend sound like the free spirit kind of man who if i'm right does as he pleases and more then likly do it again if that is the case that when he comes home you should voice your opinion on the situation. tell him you were worried half to death thinking the worst and panicked and next time he does this he should at least give you a heads up. don't be mean or shout at him, he more then likely needed some down time and that is how he does it, just be considerate and ask that he talk to you first. i hope he's ok and so are you keep me posted X

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Abz

I am pretty sure he is in a lot of pressure lately, and he doesn't want to be around other people. You should talk to him and see what the problem is. You'd be surprised by his answers.

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Grady

Sometimes people need to just get away. We live in a society where instant communication has become a norm. It used to be that we didn't always know where other people are, and have been taught to be worried if we don't receive an immediate response.As others have suggested, perhaps going for a walk with him and letting him open up will surprise you.

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Syropae

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Instead of rebuking his need for solitude, invite him to go on a long walk with you, and while you're out together for a while, ask him to tell you why he feels like he needs to disappear like that.

You're likely to find his answers interesting.

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Humanist Hope

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