should I be mad?


My ex and I broke up three weeks ago. we broke up because we are in bad places in our lives, but we still loved each other and wanted to be together eventually. He kept saying things that made me feel like he still had feelings and wanted to try again in a couple months, but I had a feeling he was sleeping with another girl.
I called him to let him know I needed more separation before I could be his friend (he has been texting me everyday) and I asked him about the other girl cause I was hurt he would do that so fast while keeping me on the hook. He got all dodgy and upset and admitted to it, but he said it didn’t change how he felt about me. He started freaking out and shouting that he was an awful guy and I should never talk to him again, and refused to talk about it further.
I know we are broken up and he can sleep with whoever he wants, but I feel hurt that it was so soon and I feel like I shouldn’t give him another chance since I feel like he should have known it would hurt me, he says it wouldn’t hurt him if I slept with other guys, but I feel like it’s too soon.
He refused to talk anymore cause he’s stressed out and is in a really rough spot and I just don’t know how to feel.
should I be upset about him having casual see with other woman? Am I crazy here?

Category: Tags: asked May 19, 2015

4 Answers

It's ok to feel the sting of an ex finding someone, but you have no ground to complain to him, since you are separated, and from what I understand, there's no real precise time limit on this breakup, just some vague getting together again one day. Of course, you can indeed complain anyway, but what good has/will it brought you? So, keep going with the 'less contact so I can move on' plan, nothing has changed, and this hurt can help you decide better what's good for you.
It sounds over to me, so be mad if you want, just move on.
Don't let him have his cake and eat it too. Hes stringing you along because he probally really does care about you but he wants to hook up with this other girl at the same time. I would end it because it will turn into a resentment type of situation and that is not a good relationship. I have had this happen to me and it does really hurt. I suggest to just cut your losses now and move on. He will probally still try and string you along but you have to be strong- don't let him do that to you. Its not fair and its cruel.
Your reason for feeling upset is understandable. I mean for him to 'move on' this quick, one would wonder how strong his feelings were for you in the first place. Yes he says that he still has feelings for you, but it doesn't mean that it would be strong enough to prevent him from 'moving on' to someone else so soon.