Should I be in trouble for this?

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I recently got back from vacation and my mother was very drunk the whole time and said she didn’t want me as a daughter and other hurtful things. We got back yesterday and she wanted to talk about it. I told her it drives me crazy when she drinks and that i want her to stop (she’s an alcoholic) and she grounds me for that. I’ve also been going through a hard time (grandpa dying, etc). Should I be in trouble for what i said?

Category: Tags: asked August 8, 2014

7 Answers

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Hi Carissa. No you should definately not be in trouble for what you said, in my opinion you should be proud of yourself for speaking your mind, and saying what you really feel about her drinking.Is there anyone in your family you could talk about this with? Or maybe a close friend? I'd recommend you that if so :)
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You should not be in trouble for this. Unfortunately, your mom is sick right now and unable to see that what she is doing to you is wrong. I am proud that you had the courage to let her know how you felt about her drinking. That SHOULD be enough for your mom to hear in order to change. I think that you need to seek some help from a relative or close friend. Your mother should be held responsible for what she is doing and how she affecting you as a person. She needs to get help. I went through my adolescent years with a similar situation and when I went off to college it was much better. My dad stopped drinking after this. And when I would come home he was nicer to me but it could never make up for how bad he made my life while i was living at home. I wish that I had had the courage to reach out to other family members, but i did not. I felt embarrassed and my mother didnt want anyone to know what was going on in our home. Bottom line is that I was the person who suffered in all of this mess and i should not have had to. Even now as a 26 year old adult, I am struggling with relationships and myself because of how i was parented as a child and teen. You need to let your mother know how you feel again. Let her know that things need to change and that you love her but she needs help.
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No, you shouldn't be in trouble for something like that, especially if your Mom has leave of her senses. One of the things that I've had to accept as I've gotten older is that my parents made mistakes just like everyone else. I don't know if she just made some very bad choices for the vacation or if there is a more serious problem but the important thing for you is that she is definitely effecting you in a negative way and that you recognize it and you want to help her and yourself. I would suggest talking to a family member first. If you're in school, talk to your counselor. They may have resources to get you and your mother help.
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Hi Carissa,No, you should not be in trouble for speaking the truth about the situation of your family life. It sounds like you need external support in getting the help your mother needs. Depending on where you are located, there should be some resources/helplines/centres to help you in perhaps getting your mother sober or at least getting her to that first step where she might be able to admit that she has an addiction.
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You shouldn't be in trouble for this, you're just being honest
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You shouldn't get in trouble for expressing your feelings, but sometimes it does happen and the people who don't deserve it are the ones who have to deal with it.

I honestly think that sometimes people have to deal with things that aren't necessarily fair. But you just have to push through until you're old enough and have the means to move out. Once you start your own life, some things will be easier.

Stay strong and I hope things work out for the best xx

- P
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No honey. You did the right thing for confronting your mother's alcoholism. I have a father who's a borderline alcoholic, and I want to tell you that I wish I had your courage to confront him. Your mother just overreacted, is all and if she doesn't see the stress she's putting you through, then maybe you should gather your and her closest friends and set up a surprise intervention for her, to show her how hard it is and how she can change it.