I went to warped tour recently, and I met this awesome girl there. We hit it off at one of the sets and I got her number. I texted her later on, we talked and I asked her out on a date. She was excited to see me, and so was I. But then she told me about her ex. They dated for like half a year, he broke it off to sleep with other girls with no guilt, and they didnt talk for 2 months. Then they got back together, and mutually broke it off because they thoht they were better as friends. And that was a week before I met her. Now she wants to try again with him since she has a hard time letting go. She says she likes me a whole lot and if he messes up once she is giving me a shot. But they dont seem to unhappy. Is it bad I want them to break up, but am not pushing her in any way to do so? We talk as friends but its buttersweet to see her with him. What do I do?:
Going by her track record, she'll be breaking up with him in a couple of months. You can wait it out if you're really interested. And if she doesn't break up with him, you can do your best to be happy that she's happy or leave when you're too tired of seeing her with someone else. Be open to finding someone else at this point, but I wouldn't say it's a lost cause.
Most definitely tell her how you feel, but in a controlled way. Don't scare her away, but don't let her push you aside either. The problem I foresee with this is she's already placing you in 2nd place. I'm sorry if that's not what you want to hear, but seeing you describe it how you have makes me think you think that too. Let her know that. No one likes that. Open communication is the biggest helper in relationship problems so don't be afraid. Don't wait on her hand and foot if she doesn't want you, but put up a good fight now if you want it go somewhere.
if you think that the girl is happy, let her go. it's doesn't feel right being or feeling like you are the third party. be with someone who know your worth . that girl may be a great girl but obviously not for you for this time. what should you do? stay out of the picture, and see the other side. i know its easy say than done but i know you can. I can feel that you are also a great guy, there a lots of girl waiting and finding a great guy. i hope they can find you. XoXo =))
Update: guess her and her ex got close. She stopped responding to my texts and snaps and now I never hear from her. I have 3 texts in a row unanswered so I'll take that as a sign and assume she doesn't like me anymore