She’s playing games with me is it?

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Well, I like a girl, and I told her that I have feelings for me, and she had replied that “We’ll talk about it”, and smiled faintly. Don’t know what the heck that meant.Since then, I’ve asked her once if she wanted to talk, but she said she wants to talk face to face. I don’t even know what is happening. It is so frustrating. Then all of a sudden, there are changes in her behaviour patterns, like she’s not texting as much, she’s not looking at me much, even the way she used to look has changed, just in one day, she doesen’t like any body contact and moves away, to which I was really surprised.But strangely, she’s nice to me, sometimes shows concern for me, and is talking just normally. While I ve completely fallen for her, she’s suddenly putting me in the friendzone, I feel.I have a lot of family issues, and I am anyways really stressed and angry, I fell for her, and I thought she was different, and I shared my stuff with her,but she’s just like the rest it seems now.I had asked her out on a date, to which she said she would go.ANd now,she’s Changed her mind probably.In that she doesen’t feel anything for me. I thought of asking her, but it doesen’t make sense asking anything as she’s not responded back about that talk we were supposed to have and I don’t want to make it look like I’m so freakin desperate, I want her, but not if she doesen’t want me back. What should I do, why are women so unpredictable?

Category: asked August 7, 2014

4 Answers

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Relationships in general are difficult. Maybe she's not ready. It seems like she wants to be, but still unsure about a few things. The best advice anyone ever told when it came wanting to be with someone is be their best friend. Maybe she's going through something and isn't telling anyone. Take your time buddy. Don't worry about being in a relationship. Worry about being the right kind of man that you want to be. I often find the best relationships are ones that two people act like best friends. One thing I can tell you is that don't try to pressure her and be there for her as her friend in the mean time but let her know how you really feel and then leave it at that. Give her time, but be sure to live your life and do what you need to do to be happy.
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Honestly, it sounds like her mind is being indecisive, perhaps she wants to be with you but somethings holding her back or something like that. It sounds as if she's more confused than you are. I agree with Joze though, just give it time, she might have her own problems she wants to face alone. I'm sure it'll work out, i wish good luck for you
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Okay, here's the thing. First, friendzone, it's not a thing. Get that out of your mindset. Friendzoning is just a way to make someone feel bad because they have decided that they are not sexually interested in the person who is pursuing them. There is nothing wrong with being or not being interested, and to suggest that someone is friendzoning someone else is suggesting that they are denying them a sexual right. Now in terms of what's happening, it's really hard to say. Maybe she's not really interested, maybe she's unsure, maybe she just wants to be a friend but is worried about hurting you, maybe she just wants to be a friend but enjoys the feeling of being validated regarding her desirability. Maybe she's not even straight but doesn't/isn't ready to come out. As others have suggested, give her space and time to sort herself out. In the meantime, keep yourself busy and if a lot of time has passed and she still hasn't spoken to you, perhaps think about moving on. It's not fair on you to be kept waiting. It's okay if she's not interested, but to keep you hanging isn't fair.
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Well, I'm gonna give a different opinion. If you feel to talk about it, talk to her. Try to have a normal conversation, don't show yourself angry and don't pretend a direct answer. Just ask her if she feels uncomfortable since you told her that you like her. This could be a nice way to make her open to you, and maybe you'll understand more about what's going on. I don't like the idea of you waiting until she decides to answer. You deserve to know if it's worth waiting or if she's not interested. And remember, this is not necessary going to be a drama. You are just two people talking about a date. If she's not a bitch :D she'll understand and will give you a minimal explanation. Good luck!