Shall i leave him?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year and a half.. and yet, he always says, he wants the best for me and i can do better than him and i’d be happier with another fella. But i also found out about 6 months ago that he has an ‘apparent’ brain tumor which is inoperable, so that gives him a year left to live. I say apparent because the friends i have spoken to about it, don’t believe him, his best friend doesn’t believe him and neither does my mum. He hasn’t told his parents because ‘he wants them to be happy for as long as possible and not worry about him’ .. I don’t want to doubt him, but this just doesn’t add up somehow. I do love him whole heartedly, but he keeps saying he doesn’t know what he want’s to do about us anymore and i’m sick of him playing games, well at least that’s what it feels like. We’ve been through so much as he’s an ex heroin addict, and i was on crack for 8 months, but I’m clean now and so is he.. Unfortunately i feel that may be what the problem is.. We’re clean now and can see the world properly, and maybe we were just better as ‘drug associates’ instead of whatever the hell this is now. Someone help?

Category: asked August 23, 2013

2 Answers

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Im sorry to hear about his ill but i think the misbehaving is normal for a brain tumor patient because he's going through a depression? Maybe he's acting the way he is now because he thinks he's not gonna live long & he doesnt wanna see you cry over him or something like that. people that are sick tend to overthink (i know). My advice convince him that its gonna be okay or ask him about what he wants. youre his gf, you would know him better if his in pain or he's lying. talk to him from there you would know what to do. im sorry if my advice is not what you expected. good luck :)
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It sounds like you already know the answer to the question you are asking, you just want someone to tell you that you are right. I once heard someone say all relationships have an expiration date on them, the key is knowing when it is. Could be a day, a year, or a lifetime. Trust your instincts. You're clean now and you can see the relationship for what it is - and only you know if you want to stay in it or not. But don't let guilt be the reason you stay regardless of whether he's telling the truth or not. Make sure your choice is what you want for your life and not because of anything else.