Well here is my situation:
I am a 20 year old girl who is in a relationship of 10 months with someone I think may be “the one” in my life. I go to college and I have plenty freedom to party, have my own car and take care of my daily duties, including my internship. My parents are ok with drinking and travelling by myself. One thing they don’t approve is sex. About 3 weeks ago, I have told them I did it with my boyfriend and they judged me a lot. There were anger, slut shaming and disappointment about me… but they made me go to the obgyn and then stopped mentioning the subject.
The thing is, I am feeling completely guilty about the fact that I want to go to the motel/drive in with my boyfriend on Sunday after he comes over to lunch with me and my parents, because they are acting suspicious when we go out together. Tomorrow we’ll be going to the movies and my mom questioned me about the reason I go to the movies all the time, and told me “I am a different person when I go out” which she didn’t explained. I want to know how can we go to the motel for a few hours and keep our so adored sex life alive and healthy even with all the pressure and suspiciousness
I am planning on saying goodbye to him after the lunch, claiming he has his band’s reharsal and that I am visiting this friend of mine whose parents are divorcing to give her support… and then meet him at the motel.
Also, there is another situation: I am going to my bf’s hometown where he lives alone for a festival in 2 weeks. I will be staying at a hotel for the weekend with a friend. I am thinking about leaving my friend at the hotel alone and spending one of those nights at my bf’s place to actually sleep in his arms, which we have been wanting to do for long and never had the opportunity. The city is about 60 miles from here. I am scared to death about my parents finding it out, but I have been craving for that night since I bought the festival tickets.
Can someone evaluate the risks of each of my sneaking plans? I would also appreciate a lot if you guys could advice me on making those plans more convincitive, please. I am extremely worried/anxious and I want the best for my relationship in all of the aspects. Do you think my odds of being busted are high? I need planning and time is running out.