I want to make a remark about your comments here please,as I dont feel that I agree with you sorry!
In your response to the post above,you say”expect them to do the same simply because you’re the venter. If you don’t think there’s anything wrong with revealing those details, then that’s great; but again, if you expect them to tell you about themselves then as a matter of courtesy you should do the same for them. You justify asking these questions based on the fact that you have a right to know and sometimes choose who gives you the help you need;”
But then later on you say “some times knowing the sex and age of a venter is crucial to helping an issue.”
Isnt that then exactly why the questions where asked by the venter,to see if the listener would be able to help?
I am sorry, but some issues may be very crucial to try and get the right person in the first place. Do you truly feel that… say for example, a young person ,some one still at school perhaps,are able to give good advice in all areas that a 40 year old may need.common! A lot of people come here not to just have a listener go hmm..yes.I see,but actually give advice.
Having some experience doing counseling back as a young adult,I sure learnt a few things years down the track and as I still am involved in a similar role with a job I am unable to discuss here due to the legal system.I do hear every thing from having some one being slapped in the face,to crimes that land them away from their loved ones.
Venters often wants more than just a listening ear,they want answers and some one that will help them make right choices,with some truly difficult issues.
I know that there are a couple things I went through in my life that If I knew of BT at the time or it existed and needed to vent,I would my self have to ask a couple of questions to the listener, be able to help try and determine if they have walked in my shoes.
Any ways..Thanks for your time,and enjoy the blah therapy experience.
