relationship advice and help?

Well let me start off by saying that I’m sixteen, have never dated and am very confused. I also have no idea how anything works as my parents have never talked to me about dating.

Anyways, I’ve never dated buyt I have liked guys before and have hopelessly tried flirting. I’m a mess. I have no idea how anything works. Several times I’ve taken the advice to “just tell hi how you feel” and have made a fool of myself. And I needed some help there.

Also I am a christian that lately was studying about dating and it said that a Woman shouldn’t chase after a man but place herself before him (like Ruth and Boaz) and I have no idea what this means.

On top of that confusion there’s a guy at church that I hung out with anew weeks ago at a church function and I think i like him? Not sure. But I can’t stop thinking about him and outs been two weeks.

Anazlyze as you will and please help me. I have no one to talk to about his stuff. Any help is welcomed, thanks.

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Mitch

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There is this notion that men are supposed to ask women out. But, most men are just as afraid of asking out a girl. To place yourself before a man and allow him to objectify you is unintelligent at best. Dating isn't as hard as people make it out to be and it certainly isn't a set in stone procedure. People and circumstances change dating. But never let anyone tell you that you must wait for a man to notice you.

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Swifting

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Since ancient times guys always am the one to ask girls out hold the door for girls and buy them dinner while that's good and dandy Me personally as a guy I think thats how a gentleman should treat a female as someone not something. Dating isn't something you should study it kinda comes with experience it's always nervous to go onthe first date for both girl and guyit takes experience to calm down and be yourself cause that's what you want be is yourself if the guy likes you he likes you for you and not what your trying to be ihope that made sense. I suggest in your sitituation to drop your fear of dating and figure out if you like this boy at church or not if you do then be yourself and talk to the guy you should aim to be friends at first mix in a little bit if flirt so he gets the right idea and message me if you need any help :) I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck

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Mj1993

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I'm 20 and have never dated anyone and am completely hopeless with flirting.Not trying to be rude or mean, but skip the Christian/Bible stuff when it comes to guys and dating because it's not going to help and will make you feel like crap. Honestly the only thing you need to know is to just talk to people. Hang out with guys. You'll be able to tell if they might like you or not. If you think they do, ask them about it or ask them if they want to go out sometime, because girls can ask out guys too! If he doesn't like you, then oh well. If we wants to still be friends and you think it might be hard, you'll move on eventually. Trust me. If they don't want anything to do with you after that, then screw them because they aren't worth your time. They obviously aren't the type of person you would want to date anyway.Just don't worry about it. You're still young.

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Marisa

Hi. I'm 16 and am rubbish when it comes to dating stuff too. The best thing to do, I think, is think about what the worse thing would be if you told someone you like them, then prepare yourself for that scenario, and then if it goes badly your kind of already prepared. Message me if you need any more help. :).

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CappucinoLover

Flirting will get you nowhere with a boys if you want him to know TELL HIM as a guy I can tell you that he will not know you like him unless you spell it out for him, don't let there be any confusion

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purple_darkness

You need to develop some confidence when communicating with the opposite sex. I think you can get some experience on the online dating sites, check this weblink. You will find it easy to register on such a platform. It will take you some time to create attractive profile. And then you will start receiving letters from boys and you can respond to them. It will teach you the basics of communication.

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