Recovery, grieving, and guilt


I’m a recovering alcoholic, a year sober. I’ve been dating a woman I love for three years, and she attempted suicide. She’s now in an inpatient mental health hospital, and all of this is getting to me. I feel like its my fault, and I want to relapse. I don’t know how to cope. Please help.

Category: Tags: asked July 1, 2014

2 Answers

You are not responsible for her actions. Like recovering from your addiction no one was responsible for your relapses but you. She needs help from a professional and she's getting it.

For now you have to focus on you and keeping yourself healthy. If you went to meetings in the past it's time to start going. If you would run or exercise it's time to kick it up a notch. I'm not saying that you need to forget what she's going through; but, I am saying you have to put you first. She wouldn't want you to be suffering either.

Hang in there. Be strong. We're all here for you.
First off, I must say that I have no experience with alcohol or drug issues myself but I do have friends that involve themselves with the items. May I ask you why you sobered up? was it for someone? was it to better yourself? Think of that reason. Remind yourself why you stopped in the first place. I'm sorry and I don't really know what to tell you other than alcohol is never the answer. This woman, she needs you to stay strong. Stay strong for her, it has been a year, don't break that because of this feeling. I don't know if you believe in God or not but I do, and I will be praying for you and this woman. If you do believe in God then I suggest you put your faith in him and he will carry you through it. Remember, that we would never appreciate the light without the dark.