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I have been thinking so much as of late. My Aunt recently died and since I have been noticing my behavior has fallen into patterns of addiction. I have been having sex and drinking alcohol a lot lately. I find myself obsessed with the men ( I say men because I am currently sexually active with more than one.) These actions I feel are addictive behaviors. I seemingly think I have an addiction to love and sex. I am really sad and i feel like I am slipping into residual saddness.

Category: Tags: asked April 3, 2014

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It seems to me like you still have some buried feelings that you have yet to let go of, and the alcohol and sex are ways of keeping it supressed. This is in fact an unhealthy habit, and I encourage you to take some time alone, away from such things in order to allow yourself to process and release your pent up emotions. Going for walks and just bringing yourself to a place where you feel at peace and safe are some great ways to help you bring those locked away emotions out. And when they do emerge, don't try to lock them away again. Just let them flow freely, even if it hurts. It's best to let things that hurt out so they can no longer continuously cause damage to you on the inside.

If you would like someone to talk to for any reason, I welcome a message from you anytime. Whether it be simply to vent, chat, question or anything else, I'd be happy to hear you :)
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I am sorry for your loss, my condolences.

Based on what you said I think you are addicted to sex and you have a fear of being alone. As you sleep with more men the more you see leave and the sadder it may make you feel.

I think you should find someone to hash all of your feelings out to: family/therapist/friend
Then, after you are fully recovered from morning then you can assess your life and the choices you make.
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Will power is a chemical resource, a muscle that strengthens with use, but weakens with under use, or impulsivity. Nothing is more damaging to self-regulation than addiction. Also, the loss of inhibition while under the influence of alcohol is probably linked to your sexual activity -- for this reason, I would of course advice you to stop drinking, but this is of course easier said than done, because of the damage that alcoholism has surely caused to your self-regulatory faculties. What is important is to understand that gaining back that control will be a battle, and because self-control is an exhaustible chemical resource, relapse is likely, but not the end of the world. The most important thing is to not think that if you relapse once, that you might as well every following day. Come back stronger.Without rehab segregating you from alcohol, or other professional help, you will likely relapse, a couple of times, but just don't give up. Regain control of yourself, and your life.Might I also suggest trying mindfulness meditation, practicing pointed focus is a great tool for exercising your self regulatory faculties, and a break from racing thoughts. I wish you all the best, and great success.