Questioning sexuality while in monogamous hetero relationship?


I’ve been with my boyfriend for a long time and I’m very much in love with him but I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a long time. I think I’ve finally figured out what I identify as (pansexual) but I’ve never been with anyone in any way but cis boys. Can i still be secure in my orientation without experience? And how would I go about coming out to him?

Category: Tags: asked August 15, 2014

3 Answers

Lost connection, were just talking, how to get back to it
You mean straight guys. I don't understand where this term CIS has come from so suddenly, it's like it just sprung up out of nowhere.

If you still love your boyfriend emotionally and romantically then it won't hurt him coming out about your expanded sexuality. I can't speak for all guys, but most would actually think it's really hot you're also attracted to girls as well. But the point is, if your new found sexuality doesn't threaten what you currently have with your boyfriend then there shouldn't be a real problem expressing this to him, he most likely accept it, have some fun teasing you about it playfully, and if you two are adventurous he'll maybe even fantasize about it with you.

However, PLEASE assure him when you're telling him this that you're still attracted to him and love him. He may get confused about you "coming out" and think you're ending the relationship to go after someone else.