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Okay, we’ll begin with the event to set off the current unease and than backtrack to understand. Last night I was telling my father about how I should be seeing a doctor about getting some of my meds refilled as they are out of refills. He said he’d see about setting up an appointment with a doctor and said he’d ask about mole removal too. How is this a problem? Let me explain briefly.
About 6 months back I noticed a little bump on my leg and told my mother about it. “Oh, it’s just an ingrown hair,” or otherwise, she didn’t care. Fast forward 4 months, I now have this large crusty thing sitting mid-shin of my leg. I go to my father because at this point my mom is out of the house (separated) and he said he’ll see about doing something about it. A month in the future he hadn’t even mentioned it once.
Frustrated, depressed, fed up with this thing and needing blood I decided that instead of just making marks I would actually do something productive. So…I cut that thing off. (If it helps that’s been the last time I’ve had a blade to my skin though there has been many close calls) so now all I have is smooth scar tissue where that thing was.
Okay, long story short. He’s now talking about getting it removed and being extremely timid I have no idea how to approach him and tell him how this thing is ‘just gone,’ and don’t want to end up in a doctor’s office and have to explain there that it’s already gone. Any ideas of how to approach the subject with my father in a positive manor? Thanks in advance :)

Category: Tags: asked October 22, 2014

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Plan out what you're going to say before going up to your dad. You can tell him something like "You know that giant mole? It was really bothering me, so I cut it off myself a few weeks ago." You don't even have to mention that it was you who cut it off- the important thing is just to show him that it's gone. (The only thing to remember is just not to lie. If you act surprised that it "just disappeared", you might find yourself the subject of more medical questions.)
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There are plenty of people who try to do stuff like that themselves to avoid medical costs and unnecessary scares. I don't know if your dad knows you used to cut, but if you just act like it's no big deal and tell him before he asks you, it'll be better.
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What if that was a benign tumor? Or even a cancer?! It's better to get things like this checked out by a doctor or even cut out and checked under a microscope to be sure. Some are just big moles, but some can be serious!!!