I’m in my late 20′s and currently living at home for a number of reasons (yes, I know, time to move out already….) My biggest issue right now is that my mother is very over-bearing, and ‘expecting’ of me to do things for her that she could very easily do herself (simple day-to-day things that she should be doing herself anyways) it’s become a bit of a habit. She has become very over-bearing since I’ve started a new relationship. I feel I am held responsible for her “loneliness” on the weekends I spend at my boyfriends place. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I am not currently in a position to move out on my own, unfortunately, and I fear even if I was it would just be another blame game over me leaving her ‘by herself’. I have tried discussing my feelings with her, but it’s always as if my feelings and opinions do not matter at all. I’m at a loss for what to do or say to improve the situation. I know she will never approve of my boyfriend, and it has nothing do with him specifically it’s just because there’s someone else in the picture now.
Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice on improving things? I hate to keep going through the arguments, and stress. It’s affecting my overall health.
**Edit – In response to some of the answers, it’s not things around the house (I’m already the only one who does anything around the house, I do it all already, so I don’t need to ‘start’ helping in that respect) it’s more general, and even personal health/care things that she should and could be doing for herself.**