I’ll save you reading a paragraph, as they can be very unsightly, and boil this down for you in point form:
- there is a guy. He has a girlfriend who is a year younger than us, and whom he has been seeing since October.
- His girlfriend does not love him. I know this via my best friend who is acquainted with this girl. She has said outright that the relationship, I quote, “Will not last once he goes off to university.” He does not know she said this. She also repeatedly talks about other guys and never her own boyfriend.
-These two do not: hold hands, kiss, hang out or eat lunch with each other in school.
-Everybody mutually agrees that these two have a weird relationship that is lacking affection and is nonexistent
- this guy and I used to like each other.
- This guy is vulnerable, suffers from some unknown family problem/ self-esteem issue/ absence of confidence and lacks good making decision skills. He has a good heart, and it is easy to see and feel, believe me.
-This guy told me last year he was not interested in a relationship with anyone, including me. He went to art camp a few months later, had a summer fling which broke my heart, and he profusely apologized about. Our relationship survived that because, despite my anger, I forgave his lack of clarity and hippocratic decision
-He started dating this new girl in the beginning of the year. Before Christmas, he told a mutual friend that he ‘regretted not dating me’ I confronted him about this, and he did not deny it.
-This guy has called me beautiful. He has also made remarks how I am awesome, smart and talented.
- I am hesitate to hang alone with this guy because of the relationship aspect- I do not want to be perceived as a tart and he as a cheat if we spend time together and something were to happen. I do not trust myself or his girlfriend.
- I have feelings for him yes, but they are suppressed, hiding underneath my anger and sadness. It would be so much easier for me to move on if he was in a relationship that might portray that he is in love. I would love nothing more than his manipulative girlfriend to dump him, but that’s out of my control.
As complete strangers and unbiased observers, maybe you can give me a clue on how to feel, what to do next. Should I hang with him? Forget him? Swear off guys forever?
Help.