What Should I Do ???

I ended so many friendships because she didn’t get along with them, or didn’t like them. I did it for her, because shes my best friend of ten years. And she can’t take an hour out of her time with her friends or her boyfriend to spend time with me? Like today we barely had 20 mins together, and the whole time I kept hearing her skype go off. [I never get her full attention, shes always talking to someone else too or talking about her boyfriend.] She was talking to a friend of hers who I don’t like because he was a jerk to me. [I don't make her stop being friends with people. yet she pushes me to and makes me choose between my friends.] She then, I’m assuming. she Lied and said she had to go talk to her friend [girl] for some reason and would talk to me later. I’m assuming she went to go talk to the guy friend who kept messaging her. I got angry and logged off skype. [she always bails on me for her boyfriend, she freaks out if shes not around him all the time. She got mad at me when I got angry that she ditched me for him because he was back from spending the weekend with his family. As if she hadn't seen him in weeks. when it was two days.] I literally have no other friends except her and this one guy, and she knows this. she says we’ll hang out and then doesn’t message me back when I say hey. She complains about her boyfriend making her cancel plans to hang out with him when they already had plans and how he doesn’t do the same for her. Yet she bails on plans with me all the time, and had the nerve to vent to me about it. I’m very angry, Lonely and wondering what to do. I feel like if I try talking to her about it she will get mad and go off like she always does.

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Amelia-B

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this happened to me as well a few years back..i had a friend who used me as a third wheel in case she didn't have anyone to hang out with and disregarded me in every other situation. i think you should just talk to her about it, if she gets mad at you she's not really worth your time. i understand it can be difficult to break up a 10 year long relationship, especially if you do not have a lot of friends to begin with, but if it's gotten this bad you should start worrying about yourself instead of always trying to please her. let me know what happens tho :^)

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pizza

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Perhaps it's time to have a good think about your friendship. For any relationship, there needs to be equal interest and want to maintain. Not to mention, communication. And it seems to me, that you are fighting for something she seems to already consider to be lost. Not to mention, someone who shows some signs of wanting to be in control, by deciding which people you can spend time with.

I know, it's hard to let go of someone, especially people you've know for very long. But ask yourself this. Is it worth it? Is it worth being her friend? To feel this way? Does the good outweigh the bad?

My advise, make yourself the first and most important priority. Don't sink down to her level. Accept who she is, and take some time and figure out if she is what you want to be a part of your life. And, to keep in mind that she is in fact a small one, not your entire. Go talk to some new people, join a club or something. That way, if you decide to cut her lose, you won't be alone. Because you aren't.

And really, if that's the only reason for why you keep her around when she pleases, I don't really see the point in trying with someone who doesn't seem to want it. Talk to her about it, and if she doesn't seem like she cares, if she starts blaming it all on you. You know what to do.

I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone.

At lo levad, you are not alone. And if you need someone to talk to, send a message anytime and I'll listen.

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Hearmenow

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maybe you should really consider if she's the best friend for you. she does not seem very healthy of a friend to have. a true friend would not make you choose. I've gone through this before and now we aren't friends. i really think you should consider your friendship, but that is just me. good luck and i hope this get better.

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cassandrasana