New People

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about a year ago now i graduated from high school and everything was good and dandy until about right around now where i feel like im alone. All of my friends that i used to hang out with all the time in high school have other things going on and dot have anytime to hang anymore it seems. But anyway im finding it hard to meet new people on my own. i guess i just dont know how to go about doing it.. Any Advice?

asked April 6, 2014

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Yea, this happens with literally every single person on the planet at some point or another. As you grow into yourself, you tend to grow in whatever direction that will lead you, with most, it tends to grow apart, with few it grows along, but it isn't something to take to heart. If anything it's an opportunity to meet new people, and guess what? The SAME thing will happen with them one day too. But your question is on how to make new friends. A few of these people recommended goin to organizations or whatever that suits your interests and they're exactly right. I mean, you don't HAVE to join anything, but if you know you like doin something (Music, gaming, cars, whatever) go somewhere that you know those people tend to frequent, or even events that are themed or created for those interests, you're guaranteed to meet some people, provided that you're willing to talk to strangers.
That's another aspect of it. You can't meet new people if you don't....MEET new people. Don't be anxious, don't stress, just throw yourself out there, say somethin silly, break the ice, just be yourself like you were with your other friends, if anything look at them as if you're ALREADY friends, and the conversation will flow. Next thing you know, you'll meet their friends, or other people, and the connections will continue building.
It's all good man, this is only a short portion of time you'll deal with this, just get out there and make it a goal to meet people. You'll thank yourself later.
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I've been home schooled for all of high school. I have made friends but like you, they moved on and I feel all alone. My only way to vent or talk to people are over the internet or on this website. Depending on your hobbies, you can meet people that way. I like to read so meeting people at the library could work. If you get a job, you can be-friend a coworker. Making friends can be really hard.
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How about joining a club? You can meet people with similar interest that way. Follow your heart and find things you like to do. You will definitely find people along the way sharing the same interest. It better to have one good buddy than tons of hi-bye friend. Dont feel stress out. Be yourself. All the best! (:
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Try going away to college, or find a roommate (assuming you have a job) and move to a new part of town. I came out of my shell so much when I just said "f-it" and moved to a new city. A college town is great because the people living around you are out on their own for the first time too, everyone is pretty much on the same page. There are also TONS of opportunities to make friends based on similar interests or circumstances.
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Hey Cody, I move a lot and it's always really tough the first few weeks. The way I find new people is by finding organizations I'm interested in. I love playing lacrosse so typically the first thing I do when I get to a new area is find a lacrosse team and join. If you're not sure if something like that would work, try going places you enjoy (museums, park, bar, club, bookstore). I meet a lot of people in comic book shops. Just remember you have to keep trying. It's easy to hole up and hide inside (trust me I did it for 3 months once) but you can't give up. Relish every new person you meet and even if you don't become friends enjoy the time you spent with them. Best of luck!


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