Need Relationship Advise.

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So here is a quick run down before i ask for opinions.

My ex broke up with me about seven months ago for no reason. She woke up one day and realized she no longer loved me. Sucks for me right? Well I’m still CRAZY in love with her, but I’m finally opening up to seeing other people.

However, I’m kind of interested in someone who is just an acquaintance in my life. She has no idea either, that I am interested.

My two questions: We work together, so how do i find out if she’s interested with out me fully giving my interest away. I don’t want to make it awkward?

Second question: Is it really fair to her, if she agrees to start seeing each other..is it fair that I’m still deeply in love with my ex?

Help Please!

asked July 8, 2014

6 Answers

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the only way to get over someone sometimes is to get lost in someone else. Don't stress.Look for signs of extra contact and stuff. Does she seem to brush up against you a lot or make an effort to touch you? Does she smile at you a lot and talk to you frequently? Things like that.
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Well maybe you need some time to yourself. In the meantime get to know your coworker more by asking her simple questions about her work projects or ask her what she likes to do around town. If she is a homebody then ask her what she likes to do on her free time. Get to know her for her and not stress about whether she is interested or not. Since you are still 'in love' with your ex you should takes things slow.Curious are you still in contact with your ex? If so then you need to take a break from contacting her until your 'in love' feelings died down and you can see her more as a friend than romantic interest!!
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I'm currently not in contact with my ex. I just see her Sundays at church. But we don't talk. Its kind of awkward.The co-worker, she does show any sign of being interested. I think what I'd like to know is how to show her I'm interested, without actually asking her out?
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you are always going to care about someone that meant something to you at one point, but it is healthy to move on and explore the possibilities life has to offer. as for finding out her feelings, find a common ground/interest, talk about it, and then invite her and friends to go out and partake in said interest, that way it's neutral with no pressure. gauge her reaction. then invite her out solo
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The only thing you can do is give this girl you're interested in a chance. Ask her if she wants to hang out some time. It doesn't have to be a date, just getting a cup of coffee together and chatting can be fun and open you up to new things.
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I'd caution against workplace things. If the relationship goes poorly, it might also have an impact on your job. Taking the rest of your question, I personally believe you won't be able to find happiness elsewhere until you are able to let go of your ex. At least, that's how I feel, and I'm in a very similar position.