my wife is not giving me divorce and i am in a long distance relationship. we are unable to meet

I am sorry but generally if you want a response it is better to be a little more specific with what you want advice on and the situation surrounding it. Other then give some background information you haven't told us much. As a rule people on this site want to help but we need to know what your main issue is. Also I cannot help but notice that you did not ask a question. EDIT: thank you for editing the question and giving us some very important details. Personally I feel the phrase "in our culture" bears a lot more importance then it appears. It sounds as though you are part of a communal group were divorce is understood but seen as a shameful thing. I might bee going to deep into this one but it also sound like you fear the comunal backlash more then the assertion that it is sinful. I think the important thing to keep in mind is what your own desires are. Do you want to be happy? do you want to fit in? in these instances the two conflict so you have to decide what is more important. If your wife has been sleeping around you could use that as grounds for a divorce to lessen some of the communal backlash (in most cultures i have seen infidelity is grounds for a divorce). As for your mother you might have to go against her on this. I am assuming that she is the only person you have told but she has her pride on the line here. This will probably hurt your relationship with her but she should come to understand with time why you did it. I wish you luck, and remember that you are the only one who can make these decisions for yourself

It's not uncommon for people to be strongly against divorce, but it's also not uncommon for people to GET divorced. What you want is what you want, and no one else should be in control of that decision. Not your mom, or your wife. If you truly want out, and are currently interested in someone else; the BEST thing to do is push the divorce through: but only if it's truly what you want. I know it may sound selfish; but sometimes you need to be just that, and do what's best for YOU. Not anyone else. Life is too short to be stuck in a situation where you're unhappy. If after, forgiveness is due, then only time can heal the hurt if getting a divorce causes any. But being unhappy will last longer, and the longer you wait, the more you'll probably regret having waited.

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I wonder if maybe the OP was cut off mid-sentence due to internet issues or something like that?

So let me get this straight.. you have been married to a woman but you have also been with another woman online for 6 years that wants you to get divorced? Why get divorced for someone you are "unable to meet"? Since you said you haven't had sex with your wife in 7-8 years and you have both been cheating on each other, I think your marriage is doomed. Since your mom doesn't agree with divorce just tell her what's been going on and then see what she says.

Not sure what country you're in but in the United States: if your wife refuses to sign the divorce papers you can have a lawyer help you through a system in which a judge can grant you a divorce without her approval.