my uncle shot himself…

Do not guilt or shame yourself for grieving. Losing part of ourselves is almost always a traumatizing event. It is okay that you don't feel 100% after your uncle's death.

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I lost my dad to a heart attack 2 months ago. We didn't even know he was experiencing chest pains. We couldn't do anything, he was already dead when we found him. I sort of understand your state of mind right now. I know its hard to go out and laugh and hang out with your friends like you would usually do. It's still hard for me. But trust me, this time will also go away. It's better to 'do' stuff normally as soon as you can. My advice is, keep yourself busy with anything, it will help your mind not to think negative things. Stay strong.

to start off, i'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how you feel, losing a loved one is always awful :( But it's normal to feel that way, don't feel "guilty" or "horrible" because of it, i'm sure your friends understand or at least they should. It's obviously not an easy thing to go through but the best thing you can do is just surround yourself with loved ones and positive people that will keep you happy. Do things that make you happy, try to get your mind off of it as much as possible even though it may be hard. Go out with friends, laugh, have sleepovers, go out for dinner with family or friends, go to a theme park just do something. Staying at home alone will only make it worse believe me. But stay strong, it'll get better eventually. Just give it time and know that your uncle is now in a better place, at least in his eyes because that is what he wanted.

Family is family, and despite that you didn't see him daily or didn't talk to him often, he's still family, and like you said, a part of you. I mean, I rarely talk to my grandparents, but when my grandmother talked about death so casually and how she's not gonna be around any longer, it made me tear up. It's just that you never really get to properly say goodbye to him and it just feels surreal and sad how he just disappeared like that. Anyone who at least meant something to you to some degree and them disappearing just like that just feels really uncomfortable. So you grieving over him is perfectly normal, and don't feel bad about ruining the night or your friends night, because it's understandable and losing somebody like that is scary. It happened at the wrong time, but death is always the wrong time, always. But it just happened to happen close to your prom night. Don't worry, time will heal you, and I'm sorry for your loss. Grieving is a way to cope and move on. Without grief, you'd experience suppressed feelings and wouldn't be able to fully let go.Have a good cry, find comfort, and everything will be okay.

Hi, as someone has already written is normal to feel like that, even if you hadn't a close relationship with him. After all he was part of your family, someone you were used to see and to talk to. Sometimes we realize the importance of a person only after events like this one.Then, I don't think you'll have to feel guilty for what happened during that grad party. If they're friends, real ones and knew it, they'll understand because a party is only a social event, while what happened to you, to your family is totally different.Apart from this I think you should stay close especially to your grandparents and your uncle's family (if he was married) and working together in order to face the situation, to learn together how to understand what happened and that's part of life, caused by nature or by depression for instance, even if we often think that people and things will last forever and don't have their own secret problems.Once these words really helped me to understand what was happening to me and to my closest relatives:"The heart's affections are divided like the branches of the cedar tree; if the tree loses one strong branch; it will suffer but it does not die; it will pour all its vitality into the next branch so that it will grow and fill the empty place." (Ghibran)Pour your youth vitality into your closest relatives and continue to live keeping in mind those you loved.Hope this will help you as well. Take care.

I'm so sorry for your loss. There isn't a right or wrong way to handle the death of someone you care about. Let yourself feel whatever you feel, there's no reason to feel guilty or ashamed about it.

In the word's of an awesome author; Sometimes pain demands to be felt.