My partner and I have been together for eleven months, and things are getting difficult. I feel like I have outgrown him. It’s like, having a favorite pair of jeans that no longer fit, you still want to keep them, but it’s difficult to fit into them anymore. I love him, I know for a fact that I love him, but I am not in love with him. There is no spark in our relationship and I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I should try and salvage it or if I should just try to move on. It’s just really hard because I love him so much and I want him in my life so badly, but I’m afraid that if I break things off then he won’t want to stay in my life.
I feel like crap because I’m unhappy and he’s perfectly content in our relationship. He is just too immature to understand that my needs are not being met anymore and our relationship has hit a stand still and I am not happy anymore.
Well hands down, if you are not happy then get out of the relationship. It's not worth your time and it's not worth his to stay together if you are unhappy, if you are unhappy now most likely you will be unhappy in the future. Might as well break it off now while you haven't been together that long then waste more of your time and break up later right? If you want to salvage the relationship talk to him about it, perhaps you just need to communicate with him that you are unhappy and if things don't change there is no point of the relationship.
It's time to have the talk. Let him know how you're feeling. Your feelings are important and you need to make those feelings known. It's important that you go ahead and let him know why it is you and not him that you've simply grown apart. Everything is going to be alright. You have to be met on an emotional level for a relationship to work and this one isn't there is no shame in that.
yep, I think you should tell him just what you told us....keep it honest , upfront ,use tact, but it must be done, lifes too short to spend even one day unhappy, it is not fair to either of you. good luck