My Parents Would Change Me If They Could, Not Sure What To Do

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Hi my name is Raphael, long story short, i am gay. Both of my parents know but they don’t want me to be gay and they would change me if they could. I’m always feel down because i am a disappointment to them, my mom always tells me, “how come you don’t try to get a girlfriend” ive had many girlfriends but i never liked it, she also says ” If you tried pussy, you wouldn’t be gay anymore” i dont like it, thats it, and im not going to get with another girl to do that. when ever she talks with my aunts and they ask her if i have a girlfriend she always tells them that im flirting around with alot of girls so they wont know that she has a gay son. I love who i am and im barly starting to finally find myself out but she always brings me down. and my dad doesnt really talk to me about it, he trys to think im still straight. Please if you can give me advice, that would be nice,

Category: Tags: asked December 17, 2013

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Hiding who you are can be destructive to both sides involved. Never let anyone intimidate or bully you into being who THEY want you to be because it benefits them. They may have given you life, but that isn't an excuse to try to control your sexuality. It's like forcing someone to start using the hand they don't use to write, because it goes against their beliefs. I promise, promise, promise one day you won't be living with them someday. Things change. In the meantime, let them believe what they want. Maybe agree to disagree? Join the group "GLBT" everyone's welcome.
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I would feel pretty disturbed if I was you and my mom said that to me. Weird. I'm sorry they're treating you that way. At least your dad doesn't say anything. I guess this is their way of dealing with it. Not much you can do really. If they want to live in denial that is their choice.