My mom thinks I’m disrespectful

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Okay so no matter what I do I always come off as disrespectful to her. Like today, I went somewhere with my sister. She knew about it. She had asked me this morning if I was going with her to her(mom’s)doctors appointment or my sister’s appointment. I said my sisters appointment. So after my sisters appointment we went to one of her friends house for like 3 hours. I didn’t know we were going there.But anyways, i went home and saw my mom was mad. “Shes like so i guess you’re not going with me to my appointment “. But i thought she already went? Why would she make me choose between her or my sister’s appointment if she didn’t go already? But apparently she was just now going so i guess she wanted me to go to her appointment after i went to my sister’s appointment. She could’ve said that. This is just confusing…whats the point of making me choose if you expect me to go to yours regardless ..im just confused. And then just now, she told me to go check on my cat (he’s getting neutered 2morrow and he can’t eat after a certain time). I checked on him and came back up. She got mad at me because i didn’t tell her how he was doing. I didn’t know i was expected to tell her how he was doing. Its like telling me to wash the dishes. Its a regular responsibility of mine, should i say what specific cups i washed? No. I just dont understand my mom. Anyways she just told me that shes tired of me direspecting her. Yeah. After these 2 incidents, im suddenly disrespectful. Note that i just tried explaining myself to her. No smart comments. She didnt believe me and i just took it. I dont know what i did wrong and its tearing me up inside.

Category: asked June 23, 2015

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Your mum is looking for attantion all she wants is to see that you care for her and wants to spend some time with you . You are not disrespecting her but she is finding reasons to make you feel sorry and .. how to i say it lower your self so you go and say sorry or i love you mum .. i guess she just needs a little of attantion . Honestly all mums are like this they want the best for you and put the best in tou but at the end of the day they dont really know what were they expecting .. us it happend with the go check on you cat .. . You did what you were told but cuz she wasnt satisfaid cuz you did not make it into a converstation she found a problem in no actually problem . I should just talk to her casualy .. laugh a little with her watch a movie together .. so she actually feel that bonding and she wont just push you around not really knowing what she wants .
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Um, I don't 100% completely agree with Kathrine. It's a simple case of miscommunication and expectations. It's not just that she's looking for attention... She wants to be in good communication with you. You didn't know you were going to a friend's house - but it wouldn't hurt to have let her know over the phone or something. And the cat, it would've been very easy for BOTH people to say something, either you saying "The cat seems fine" or she could have asked. She just wants you to be more open, conversationally. As a mother myself, it sounds like you're shutting her out unintentionally. She's expecting a certain attitude from you that is probably just changing with time as you grow, and she isn't keeping up with that. On the other hand, you wouldn't lose anything by speaking up.

That's all she wants. So work on your communication and things should clear up. :)
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