My heart has been ripped out of my chest

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I have been through hell and back, but the most painful thing I’ve ever experienced is having someone who is your world lose intrest and not care about you at all. He was all I had, really. He was the only person I did anything with, only person I talked to, only person I care about, only person I had in my life. He used to care and love me so much and want to see me all the time. Now he doesn’t want to see me at all. He has left me, with nothing, and broke my heart so badly words cannot compare. I want him back, I want him to care again. He still tells me he loves and cares, but how can he leave me like that? I can’t live I can’t breathe he’s haunting my dreams help me

Category: Tags: asked March 30, 2014

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First, I want to say that I am sorry that you have experienced this heartbreak. It's a very crummy feeling.Second, I would invite you to look at this as an opportunity for you to find happiness for yourself that doesn't rely on another person. As wonderful as any relationship can be, it's not healthy to base our personal happiness on someone else's presence in our lives, especially because we never really know how long they will be there, or how involved they will always be. Even your best friends today may only talk to you once every few months in the future as you all grow older, move away and build your own lives. Dependency on another person like that hampers our own personal growth, which is why when that person leaves we feel so lost and unable to cope - they were our coping mechanism.While I'm sure you enjoyed his company and the love that you two shared, trust me when I tell you that you will be alright without it. I have personally only dated one girl. It lasted 4 years, and when we split up it was soul-crushing. Given enough time though, I returned to doing the things I love, enjoying my hobbies, spending time with friends and family and being able to put all my energy and time into exactly what I wanted without having to worry about the proverbial ball 'n chain.Give it some time. If you can, talk to a counselor about your feelings - mine helped me a lot with my breakup. In the meantime, go back to your hobbies and enjoy the time you have!
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While Emilee. I once had a friend like that, but he decided he didn't want anything to do with me anymore and I cried for weeks on end. But then I realised, he wasn't worth it. If someone, even a close friend just ignores and refuses to speak with you, they really aren't worth your time. I know that's easier said than done but I hope you can get past this. I'm sure with a little effort and a lot of time you'll come to realise you don't need people like that in your life, you deserve to have someone that will stick with you though thick and thin.If you need anything please send me a message.
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I'm kinda in the same situation, my ex broke up with me 10 months ago, I still love her. I don't know how to take her off my mind. I tried other girls, but I feel like I can't fall in love with another person while I'm still in love with her. But here goes your help, try making new friends, going out, if you can't forget him, at least try to get used to live without him. Get some fun, enjoy yourself, abuse of hobbies and learn new things such as cooking. Soon you'll feel better
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Everything will pass. Hang in there. Try to forgive, for your sake. Keep busy. Exercise. Eat well. :) Talk with friends. :) *hugs* Time heals.
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sorry to hear. keep trying, don't give up but stay strong!
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I agree with all the people above in this forum but I would encourage you to let yourself feel the way you feel. If you feel like crying your eyes out, you should do it until one day, you'll wake up and not want to do it anymore. If you deny yourself the right to feel upset and just bottle it up or avoid it by doing other things, it can eat you up inside. Just know that you have the right to be upset and the right to feel downright awful for a bit but that things will get better. The sun always rises to see the next day and you will too.