So im a pretty quiet person and it takes me a while to warm up and actually be myself around people. Recently ive been warming up to my friends at school more and im starting to talk more and act like my normal self. but, they dont like it. They think im annoying now and they say my voice is loud and obnoxious. Another thing is that they think that boys make me act differently. but its not the boys that cause me to act different, its just that im starting to feel more comfortable around my friends. I’ve tried to talk to them about it but they dont take me seriously, please help?
They don't sound like great friends. I'm sorry to say that but if they can't adapt to you being comfortable around them(Which is ridiculous to me), then they aren't worth your time. I know how it is to be the quiet one, and have trust in me when I say you'll meet people eventually that you'll just click with. They won't judge you or try to call you out on acting differently. They'll be happy with you as an individual and will accept you for the person you are. Friends are a process, and you have to let go of some, and you have to sift through lots of coal to find the diamonds.
It doesn't sound like these are the people who deserve to be your friends. You deserve to be with people who are kind and don't talk badly of you. They honestly don't know what they are missing out on. Being the quiet one was always my downfall when it came to making friends. I'm an Introvert, a person who keeps to themselves and rarely social inter reacts with people. Sure enough I believe you'll meet the right people who are just like you and they'll make even better friends.
They said your voice is loud and obnoxious? What an awful thing to say to someone. I think you should stop considering them your friends. I won't repeat the same things said above, it's excellent advice. I just want to add that even though you may feel like you're going to be alone without them, nothing is worse than putting your trust in people and getting insulted. If you become comfortable and open up to somebody you're giving them the ability to really hurt you. That's why you open up to the right people, and sweetie, those are definitely not the right people. Save yourself a lot of trouble and find people who love you for who you are!
Dear, don't surrond yourself with people that make you feel bad about being YOURSELF. I mean, they don't like your voice? What's wrong with them? Show them how much YOU love your own voice, how friendly you can be, show them that you are comfortable with friends, and you're not going to change that for them. Just be the best version of yourself you can be, and don't let others put you don't, because it's not worth it. Your happiness is more important than some mean coments, ok? Just stay positive and keep your real friends, the ones who are happy to have you, really close. (: