So I became friends with this guy named Greg who I used to be close with back in Elementary School through my job. Well, I began to crush on him and finally built up the courage to say you know, hey I like you and he just was like really? and started talking to me more and we went to the movies and hung out here and there. A month later I tell my friend hey, I like Greg and then they tell me he’s got a gf. I was so confused because he was talking to me late at night and wanting to hang every so often,and would flirt with me at work so like how did he have a gf and not say anything you know? Then I had one of my managers ask me if I was his gf and I told him no, why? and he told me that Greg told him that his gf worked at our job. So, I was curious and started asking around and found out who his gf was and I ended up confronting him the day I found out. He was upset over something and was punching boxes near the bailer and I said to him so does your Cat know you’re like this? and later he messaged me asking how did I know he was with Cat and I told him I guessed. Then told him how I felt stupid for telling him how I felt when I didn’t know he had a gf and he told me he was sorry and he just liked the feeling of being liked or you know, appreciated in some way.
Now, I was texting him and he wanted me to hang with him to watch the soccer game and drink and “get crazy” as he said and I asked him if his Gf knew I was going to hang with him and he said yes she knows we go way back and I said okay, I just didn’t want to give her the wrong impression and he asked me what I meant and I said that I didn’t want her to think I liked him. He was like but you do and I said yeah but I wouldn’t do anything and he then say yea right you want to rape me. Mind you this isn’t the first time he’s joked about rape to me. So I was like no, I’m not about that life and he said So I’m going to rape you? and I said I’d hope not and he’s like it’s not rape if the rapie likes it and I said so you’d like it? and he said if the rapie likes it so I was like whatever, he’s being stupid and I said why are we even talking about this? and he’s like idk I was going to say something but nevermind and I tried asking him what it was and all I got was him saying yes to me asking if it was because he was in a relationship he didn’t want to say what he was going to say. So today I see him at work and we talk here and there and he jokingly grabs me by the throat and tries to pick me up but I dead weight him playing around because he likes to do that to me, since I’m like 95 pounds and 5’1 while he’s 150 and 5’9.
So I got a text a few hours ago saying he was going to tell me what he was going to say the other night and he said he was going to try and I said try what? And he said he was going to try and rape me. So I was like really? Why do you want to do that? and he said he had his reasons. Then he asked me if he could and I was like what? rape me? and he said yea, and I was like you’re in a relationship you know that right? and he was like I know but would you though? and I was like wtf no I don’t want to be raped and he said okay I won’t rape you I’ll just have sex with you and I was like wow are you serious and he was like, can we? and I told him I’m not a home wrecker and he’s like you won’t be a home wrecker, it’ll be our little secret and then he had to go back to work and I have no idea what to do like I’ve never encountered a situation like this, do I tell his gf he’s telling me this? What do I do? I work with him at my job, I’ve known him for years like is he serious? Is he just joking with me? I have no idea I am so lost for words. I would have never thought he would ever tell me this or say those things to me. What do I do or what should I do?? Sorry it’s so long but I needed to explain everything so you’d understand the situation.
