How does it make you feel that she might do this? Is there something that worries you but you're not sure what that is? From what I've seen and heard it's pretty normal for things like this to happen. I agree with others that she and he should consider it carefully, and ideally just wait. The question that next presents itself to me, is wait for what? a certain age, marriage? Sex is so incredibly special, even sacred you might say. It's natural to have sexual urges of course, but due to the complex emotions and nature of human beings we are monogamous beings by nature, we are very jealous and often claim those we love as 'ours'. I will say that if it's happiness you want for your friend, decide what you believe about sex/relationships/marriage and if you think she will be happier to decide now and make the choice to wait, tell her how you feel and you will have done her a great kindness by being honest about how you feel and if you do so with her happiness as your motivation, regardless of the result you've done the right thing. I believe that Sex is for the person you want to be with forever and that the happiness that comes with that doesn't result from the act alone. Sex is a physical act but it has to do with so much more than physical, it's the closest a man and a woman can get to one another and it resembles how the two should be in all aspects, in the way they treat each other, think about each other, and how much they are committed towards one another. http://www.italiansrus.com/articles/ourpaesani/italianmamma.htm "Italy has one of the lowest birth rates in the Western world. More than 80 percent of Italian men still live at home with their parents well into their thirties." "The Italian government is so concerned that it has offered to give 1,000 euro to those who opt to have a baby. Salerno, in the south, has even offered 12,000 euro to couples willing to reproduce. The country's future depends on it. The median age in Italy has risen from 40.2 to 42.5 since 1995, according to a recent Time article. The magazine also reports that the percentage of retired Italians has jumped from 23 percent to 28 percent in the last 10 years. This means that the country is quickly losing its workforce and relying on senior citizens to run its government.". Italy may be the subject here but they are by no means the only ones suffering from this. Marriage and in turn families where children grow up and learn how to live life independently are critical for a functioning society. Thanks for your question Alyssa, I hope this helps.
