My dad is insensitive


So yesterday I was wearing a big T-Shirt and I’m a small girl so it made my arms look even skinnier I guess. My dad told me I look anorexic twice. The first time I just shrugged it off because like whatever. But the second time he said it I was standing in front of my mom and I ran upstairs bawling my eyes out. I already think I’m too skinny but I can’t do anything about it. My dad never even apologized. My mom even told him to. My mom came upstairs and comforted me. Just when I start to build confidence in myself someone always has to come along and knock me down.

Tags: asked August 15, 2014

2 Answers

Hi. So I'm not sure where your dad was coming from. He may be concerned for his baby girl. Maybe it came across as insensitive but he didn't realize. Try to talk to him. Nip it in the bud. If he's only ever told you twice, it still doesnt excuse the fact you got hurt, but try not to over react. Try making a joke out of it instead. Dad, would you rather I be an XL?

Have you seen a doctor? If no, make an appointment to be safe. If he/she says your BMI is healthy, you're not too skinny! If you are underweight, he/she may be able to suggest some things. All in all, don't run off crying. Tell him straight up that it's offensive and you already feel uncomfortable as it is. I hope everything smoothes out soon. Stay strong! All the best etc.
Dads are always going to be different from moms. that's why you have a mom AND a dad. Your father is there to toughen you up, and mom is there to comfort you and talk to you when you need it. that's how I grew up. I was pretty much a tomboy growing up. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings at all, he probably just wasn't thinking about you in all of this. If you're that concerned about his insensitivity, though, you could maybe talk to him. Or, if talking it out isn't his thing, just tell him that what he said was rude or it hurt your feelings. As long as he understands that you didn't like what he said, that's fine. He doesn't have to say anything back, either. As long as he thinks about it. And about your weight, if your BMI is okay, you have nothing to worry about. Maybe start lifting weights or doing sports to gain some healthy weight and muscle. don't stress over being skinny!