My best guy friend likes me, help?


I recently found out that one of my closer guy friend likes me, and all along I thought we were in a mutual friend zone kinda thing so I’ve gotten used to it when people ship me with him together.

The thing is I don’t like him back and I don’t want it to affect our friendship. He told my friend he was going to confess but held back because she talked him out of it (she knows I don’t feel that way towards him) and now I realise why he was so nice (over here I’m referring to the times where I felt like he was crossing the friend zone but shrugged it off thinking he was just being nice).

Usually when I find out that someone likes me, I’d kind of ignore that person or give less enthusiastic replies because I don’t want to lead him on. I feel like I have been doing that to him the past few days as well and this is not something I’m proud of but yeah.. Looking back, I realised there are a lot of things I wish I didn’t say in the past because that probably gave him the idea that there was a chance things would work out between us.

My question now is, how do I deal with him liking me without ignoring him yet not leading him on? And if he were to confess, what should I say (I haven’t rejected someone outright before) so as not to hurt his feelings too much?

Category: asked December 30, 2014

1 Answer

You have to be honest with him. I know this isn't easy to do, but you have to tell him honestly that you don't feel the same way. If you don't say something, he might hold on to that spark of hope that he could have something with you. Tell him that you're flattered, but that you simply don't feel the same way. You don't have to ignore him all of the sudden. He might be a bit sad that you don't feel the same way, but the truth is better. Be open and honest, it's the best way. I know from experience.