Move on or keep trying?

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My now ex and I dated for just over a year (I’m 20, he’s turning 22) – also I was his first girlfriend. It was a bit rough at first and we did have our fights but we were also very good, and we kept getting better as we stayed together longer. I literally thought I could see myself having a future with him…
Anyways, we broke up for a few days a month or so ago because he found out I lied about something stupid (I returned a jersey back to my ex and didn’t tell him so he wouldn’t worry… I thought I was helping the situation). He ended up taking me back but then I met up with a coworker for him to teach me how to do tape jobs (athletic therapy), and I didn’t tell him and went along with it when he asked if I was at the gym. Once again, I thought because he’s the jealous type he would be mad.. it was a stupid decision.
Well it turns out he tracks me phone and knew where I was both of those times.. I think he uses lost my iPhone or something..
But now I want him back because it was ME who messed up. But I went to his house to see him and he wanted an amicable break up – so we hung out 2 days ago again as “friends.” He kept asking me how I was doing and I broke down crying and he hugged me for a ridiculously long time and kissed me on the forehead and told him he wants me to tell him how I feel and doesn’t want me to be sad. He said he wants to be friends and that he doesn’t want to get back together with me and wants to gain his friends back and hang out with the boys and isn’t interested in getting another girl but he doesn’t want to “shut the door” on me because we don’t know what can happen in the future… although he doesn’t want to string me along. Anyways, we ended up.. having sex.. (bad idea), but he was very hesitant because he said he didn’t want to hurt me or string me along, and he didn’t even kiss me during it because he didn’t want it to be harder..?
Anyways, we agreed to hang out today too, and go to the driving range. Should I try to be friends with him with hopes of getting him back? Or should I try to move on because it’s hopeless?

Category: Tags: asked June 20, 2014

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Well its obvious that you guys don't trust each other at all. But you have feelings for each other that's for sure. So if you can TELL HIM where you go without lying and he can relax...then maybe your relationship can work out. However, if you keep lying to him and CANNOT trust him then move on...what's the point having a relationship without honesty? Nothing...problems will arise and the same cycle all over again.Anyway just think about your relationship is it a healthy one or a dying one?...you have your answer.