Mom hates gays?

My mom hates LGBTQA+ people and everything to do with them,she hates them. Now personally I’m not gay or any of the above but I am surrounded by people that are, I respect them and I’d like them to have their rights
But my mom believes they are mentally sick.
She threw up last time she saw my friend who is bisexual
She doesn’t let me read any books on the subject
She blames gays for STD’s being in the world, she wants all gays to go to a mental hospital and get “cured”.

Now, I know people are allowed to have an opinion and they are allowed to dislike things but, I feel like she’s going a bit overboard. Especially since she rubs it in often, she brings up the topic on her own and speaks about gays and how much she hates them.

It really makes me sad that she’s so hateful. Please, any sort of advice?

Category: Family asked May 14, 2015

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Mia

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Well she has a bit old and odd mentality but there is nothing you can try to change her mind cause as far as I think even if you try to make her understand it won't help and it will end up in her yelling at you so there is not much you can do :(

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Rudransh

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You could also ask her not to discuss that topic with you, if she doesn't want to hear your opinions of the topic. And if she continues, just walk away. If her opinions stem from religious beliefs, most religions say that it is not her right to judge, but God judges. She probably feels this way due to how her parents brought her up, it can stem from ignorance and fear. My parents are total biggots about homosexuality and are totally racist. I don't try to change their opinion. I have lots of gay/lesbian/bi friends, but I don't bring them near my parents. Sometimes I have wondered if their fear, is because deep down they wonder if they have attraction for the same sex, within them selves. Usually there is something deeper, under the obvious hate.

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Abztract Isight

Personally I would fight back if her opinion goes further to impact of others happiness... at least keep her quarantined

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Emily

Like said, everybody has the right to have an opinion. We all go through our own individual experiences and the least we can do is understand that, in that case we make peace with it because like any other subject; fighting it won't change anything, the only thing we can do is inspire them through ourselves, whether or not they want to be inspired is up to them. There is no war to fight, we live in a place of balance.

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SailorMars

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This (and the comments) might give you some suggestions on how to act when she starts saying that stuff:
http://captainawkward.com/2011/07/27/reader-question-81-defusing-a-racist-relative/

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rinseandrep

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