Mom complains to me about her marriage problems

I’m 20 years old, and I live with my mom and stepfather when I’m not in college. My mom is unhappy in her marriage and frequently complains to me about it. This makes me very uncomfortable and sad, so I asked her to stop doing it. She said that I’m being selfish for not wanting to support and listen to her. Am I being selfish, or is she? Am I supposed to act like her other female friends now that I’m an adult, or are there still some boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed?

Category: Family Tags: mom mother asked June 26, 2014

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daydreamer

4 Answers

You are in no way being selfish. Your mother is just trying to guilt you into listening to her problems. I would stand your ground and say i will not listen to your complaining about your marriage because it makes me uncomfortable and i do not have to stand for it anymore, or you know something along those lines. You have a right to be comfortable in your own home, even if you share it with your mother.

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TheRejectedAvenger

My guess is she's looking for solidarity (in the wrong place though). You should let her know subtly that she knows better than you regarding her own relationship. Show your support and non-selfishness in different ways, maybe take a walk together or cook for her, which also distracts her from her problems.

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