Make It More Than Friends?

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While I have friends that I can talk to about pretty much anything, I’m just looking for some outward advice.

So I’ll break it down for you the best I can:

This year is my final year of high school, and we’re graduating in just under 3 weeks. I belong to a group of friends, all girls except one guy, and we are all rather close and spend lots of time together. Our universities are scattered across the country.

Prom: My best friend and the one guy, who both belong in this group, have known each other for years, back to childhood days. Before prom, we were certain he was going to ask her to be his date, as he was acting a little nervously around her, but alas, he didn’t. She made it clear to me that she has no desire to date him and doesn’t think of him in that way. I wore a green dress to prom: hold that info in your head for a minute.

Now: While this guy and I talk a little bit, we aren’t the closest, at least compared to my other friends. I have always found him attractive and handsome, but as he has had some self-esteem/ rejection problems this year, and I’ve just steered clear of making a romantic approach on him, to give him space. I myself was getting over another guy this year, like him (for a girl), and wanted to stay clear of any relationships.

However, this is were it gets weird, and awesome. As it is the end of the year, yearbooks have come out, and everyone is making an effort to sign them. I asked this guy to sign my yearbook, and this is what he wrote. (I’m paraphrasing a little because I don’t have the book in front of me)

“It was great getting to know you this year. You are super awesome. You are also super pretty. You are especially super, super pretty in green dresses, also. I hope to read your work in the future. P.S You’re my favorite of the girls.”

Very charming, and totally out of the blue. We’ve never flirted before and I found this completely usual and flattering. I really want to write a cute reply in his yearbook, and my number. But the question is, should I really do it? I know none of the other girls like him, but I’m just concerned that after the prom incident and the long term friendship he’s had with the other girls, it might, I don’t know, make things awkward. On saying that, should I sacrifice my own happiness and a potential romance? Are we all good enough friends that nothing will happen. We are not a drama infused group, we’re all nerds. Should I tell my best friend? IS HE EVEN INTO ME?

Advice?

Category: Tags: asked June 12, 2014

4 Answers

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I would say write something cute back. If he says that he's not into you, just act like it was a joke, you just wanted to write something equally flirty back. He doesn't need to take it seriously. And really, you two could be really happy. If none of your other friends are into him, then it should be fine. They should not be upset that you want to be happy. This could be really good for you. Why not? If it doesn't work, then move on. Anything is possible. Trust me, if you all are close you can always get over awkwardness.
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Writing in a Yearbook... Bloody hell. Aren't those the things your moms keep for years and then get out when it's wedding day to embarrass you? Good thing I burnt mine. Anyways, as of your issue, @Luminescent gave a good advice. Write something cheesy, that's what he did, so why not?
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I think that you should talk to your friends telling them you like him (MAYBE) But I thnk he was flirting with you, he must have some interest if he remembered for dress color for prom. I think you should go for him, if your friends were real friends they'd understand and support. I wish you the best of luck! Don't sacrifice your own happiness because than you can lose the best thing that could've happened to you! So go for it!
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Good news! I wrote in his yearbook, with a cute little message (something along the lines of him being super handsome and an inside joke about how if he ever finds a choco-kebab machine he has to hit me up) and left my number too. I was so freaking nervous, especially when my other friend started reading it, I nearly ripped the goddamn book out of her hands.Later that day, when school was over, I was walking home with a friend, and you-know-who just suddenly appears behind us, out of breath, like he's be running up the street. He looked at my friend, and then at me, and then headed the other direction. As he turned away he called to me and said "If I ever find one, I'll text you." He'd have no reason to walk this way, as he has a car, and drives to school.That evening, he texts me the same thing, with a winky face.*keels over with abundance of feels and squeals*thoughts?Bad news is, I'm now watching my phone like a hawk to see if he texts again..