love triangle

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the thing is, that when i was in high school, my friend had a crush on this guy but he never noticed her and in the meantime he got a gf. After all, she found another guy and fell for him. But the problem is, that after some time i found her previous crush attractive. I told her about it and she said she’s fine with it and that she doesn’t like him anymore. I was chasing after his guy (despite the fact that he was in a relationship – i know i’m stupid) and he was making me feel like there’s a chance we could be together (all the cuddling, holding hands, you don’t treat someone who’s just a classmate like that). A few weeks later his friend told me that he’s reallyyyyyy into my best friend who had previously had feelings for him. I never told her that. I was hurt that he liked her over me, and she was all flirty around him and it was also bringing me down. After we graduated, we stopped talking to this guy. A few days ago he talked to her to ask how she was. And then me, her, him and other people from our former class met. He was all sweet as he used to be and i tried to talk to him face to face but there was always someone interrupting us and i had a feeling he didn’t wanna talk to me at all. When my friend joined us he was all over her and completely forgot that there were other people with us. I know it’s been going on for 2yrs now, but i don’t know how to cope with my feelings for him. He was the first guy that i truly loved. How do i let go

Category: Tags: asked September 22, 2013

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First of all, I'm glad the advice you're looking for is how to let go. I know it's hard to realize that sometimes people don't like you back and I'm glad you've already come to this realization.My advice to you would be to fall back in love with yourself. I'm not saying you lost yourself in falling for this guy, I just mean that putting yourself first will help you get over him. Start focusing your energies on something other than crushes and relationships: hobbies, school, other friends, anything that makes you happy. It would also be smart to distance yourself from him a little bit, and maybe your friend as well if being around her makes you think of him. Sooner or later you'll forget about your crush because you'll be happy doing other things.And, as a thought, if you spend all your energies making yourself happy not worrying about relationships, it's way more likely you'll find the right guy.Hope I could help!!