Love & Hate?


There is this guy, we’ll call him Connor. Connor and I, since day 1 have hated each other for no reason, well not hate, but we never exactly got along either. I would make fun of him, he would make fun of me, we’d snap at each other and stuff. But at other times Connor and I, we’re like best friends, we laugh at the same things and get the same jokes. He asks me for help and I ask him for help and stuff. But at others we’re clawing at each others throats. We’ve been like this for 4 years.

About a week ago, I got this crazy thought in my head that I liked him. Then I started digging deeper and I definitely like him. A lot, I love every little detail and flaw. But the thing is I feel like and I know that he doesn’t see me as a girl or anyone special. He has 0.5% interest in me.

I’m scared about how all of this is going to turn out. Which is obviously in heartbreak, and embarrassment. Any advice in making him see me as something a little more attractive than I am now?

Category: Tags: asked January 2, 2015

2 Answers

You can't really make someone like you or be attracted to you if they are not. It's there or it isn't. The only thing you can do really is be nice to him, be yourself. Try to build a better friendship and maybe it will lead to more. You can't force something that isn't there, sadly. You can be honest about how you feel and see if maybe he silently feels the same without you realizing. Otherwise, it might just be one of those things where it is what it is and nothing really comes of it. You can't really know unless you say something. Right?
Love and loathing are strangely attached to each other. It's going to hurt regardless, I would say what the person above me did. Invite him to see you in a different light, maybe he'll be interested. There is always more than meets the eye :)