Long term relationship.. needs not being met

I think you should try to talk to him about it again - seriously. So that he can see without a doubt that you are serious about it. You deserve to feel special. Some people may tell you that he is just a guy and that is how guys are, but that is not true. Some guys are awesome at letting their partners know how much they are loved and some are not - goes the same for women. Guys usually start out in a relationship by doing nice things for their girlfriend and then it tapers off after you've been going out for a while. If he's never been one to do sweet things, it probably won't get any better. So you probably need to decide whether you can live with that or not. When you talk to him about it, he may do nice things for a while - but it may leave you feeling like he's only doing it cause you asked him to. So you really can't win in this situation if you truly need a guy to do nice things for you. At the end of the day if you are happy and you are truly in love then stay - if you aren't then consider leaving.

you really have to decide if you can continue in a relationship were you are unhappy. If he is not making you happy then you should not be with him. A partner should be there for you emotionally and he should be doing kind things for you all the time. Relationships are hard and need work but he just doesnt seem interested. Hope you can make the right choice that makes you happy.

Don't get me wrong, I am happy with him and I love him. I just wish that he was a nicer guy. He has never really done anything nice or been the dating type. I guess I set myself up for this. I just have a lot of thinking ahead of me. I'd hate to start over and I'm comfortable (sorta) where I am now.

You know my boyfriend was the same way. And one day I asked him whats your deal!? And he told me that since his father had left when he was very young he did know what it looked like to me affectionate with a women. His father was a very violent man which he doesnt speak about. But maybe your bf has issues with showing affection.. some guys dont get it right away.

I'm in a long-distance relationship too. I think the best way is for the two of you to meet in person and talk seriously face-to-face. Understand why he's saying NO 80% of the time. Get him to understand what you need from him. Finally, decide if the two of you still want the same things.

It sounds to me like he has always been like this, you too have been to gether for almost half a decade, you should not expect him to suddenly change. Even if he is willing to change it won't last very long as this has been the trend in the relationship for so long. If it bothers you this much you should find someone else despite the comfort you feel being with him. Love should be the one thing in this life you don't have to 'settle' for, if you feel there's something you're missing out on and you deserve then that feeling is only going to get worse. Alternatively most couples tend to notice negative aspects of their partners when they're in long distance relations so it might just be that you two need time together. Try to see his positive values as well and focus on those, the less you worry about the relationship the smoother it will be and the longer it will last.