Long distance relationship is getting to me.

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I’m currently in a long distance relationship and I have been for 3 months. I live in Texas and he lives in the United Kingdom. We kik and skype all the time but it hurts me not actually getting to see him and I know it hurts him too. About a week ago he told me he was in love with me, and I said I was in love with him too which I actually have been for about 2 months. I’m 14 going to be 15 in 18 days and he’s 16 going to be 17 in January. My mom does not approve of your relationship only because she thinks that we will never get to meet. I kind of think she’s right, but I can’t leave him. I love him too much. What do I do?

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Long-distance relationships are definitely a lot of work! I'm in one myself and have been in one for almost a year and a half. Definitely sometimes it gets to me when I can't see him or have that physical connection that is pertinent for a relationship but we try to make the best of the situation. I go to college in Arizona and he goes to college in Maryland so we don't have the means to fly out and see each other a whole lot. But you have to ask yourself if it's what you really want. If you really care about him and he cares about you then you'll find a way to make it work but you both have to be committed to it. You just need to ask yourself if you are going to be okay when you know you probably won't be able to see him for a few years or so. Long distance relationships can work, you both just need to put in 110% effort and make sure that this is something that you both want and are willing to work around the barrier of not being able to see each other face-to-face. Good luck with everything though!
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Long distance relationships, especially if you're involved with someone who's half a world away, can be really hard, and I'd be lying if I said it gets easier with time. Not having them near you is something you never completely get used to, but there are things you can do to help. I've been dating a guy in Germany for almost a year now, and I'm stuck in Indiana. We don't have as much time to spend together as we used to, but we talk as much as we can, plan Skype dates where we play games or watch movies, shows, or even just YouTube videos together, and sometimes, as cheesy as this may seem, we'll even fall asleep together over Skype. Just because someone is not near you physically doesn't mean you can't still be close to them, it just takes a little creativity! I know it can seem especially hard when your boyfriend isn't just miles away, but time zones as well.

I'm not going to tell you you're unrealistic or that you're wasting your time, but I will tell you that it's going to take a lot of work if you want your relationship to, well, work. It's going to take a lot of planning and effort, but the biggest thing is to remain positive. It may be some time before you two ever meet up, but if you feel he's worth it, by all means don't give up because of a few miles. We can't tell what the future holds, but enjoy the time you spend with him and cherish the love you two have together.