Life decisions?

How do you know your making the right decisions?
I am English Nanny has spent the last 4 years between to place in England but always gone back home to my family and friends at the weekends because I love my family and friends and can think of no better joy and happiness then spending time with them.

Christmas 2011 I met a Australian in Thailand and we stayed in touch and spoke to each other most days and I flew to Australia twice and he flew to England twice. He offered to move to England and I said no as due to the nature of nannying hours it would never work as I would be out the house for so long each day 7-7 it could strain our relationship, so I who was looking I finish a job with a family I loved offered to move to Australia.

After a year of knowing each other in Jan I moved from the Uk to melboure and he moved away from Perth and his family and friends to Melbourne. I got a job straight away as a nanny and he has just started a job in the city (it took a few months longer than expected).

Now we are looking a getting a place together and this commitment scares me. I love family and friends and nothing more to buy things for home making I am a very Carig person.

My issues are I have missed how ever since I left and daily think should I be here with a guy that really loves me or shud I be back at home with the family and friends I love.

I am yet to meet many people in Melbourne, so don’t yet have any female friends and I don’t know whether or not I want to live here in the future or not, I have been trying to decide if I shud stay here or go back to the uk and if its fair to stay with someone you love and who really loves you even if you not sure you want to spend your future with them? Is it selfish?

Melboure points for staying:
I have someone who loves me
It’s life experience and a adventure
I know I don’t have friends now but I’m sure I will

Points for the UK
Family and friends
Better career opportunities
I can save for the house I want to buy near family/friends

I know this isn’t the biggest problem in the world but I have little people to talk to and some big life decisions I’m struggling with.

Thanks for reading this

Category: Dating & Relationships asked April 17, 2013

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Anonymous

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I think if you've moved that far already whether you realize it or not, you committed to a decision. Relax and be happy.

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Michael

I disagree with Michael. He was willing to move for you. Even though you turned him down. Clearly he doesn't feel the same way about Australia as you do about England. If he's willing to move there with you to be happy it shows his commitment to you. I'd suggest talking to him about moving. See where it goes.

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Swifting

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You have some tough decisions. In my mind, when you find the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, you should put that person first. However, in your situation you are not sure he is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. (unless I misunderstood you) It is a decision you have to make. Is it worth staying with him and finding out if he is the one or not. I don't think you should give up so soon because you went through the trouble of moving there to be with him, and he cares a lot about you as well. So you can stick it out there, or you have the option of talking with him about moving back to the UK to be closer to family. It is something I think you should talk to him about, but it takes time to make friends so it is very possible that you will make friends there in Melboure and be very happy. But you have to do what is best for you. Just make sure that you aren't giving up to soon.

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daddysgirl

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