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So I started talking to this guy online, he was amazingly good looking and a bit weird. Within about 30 mins of talking he asked me to move in with him. Leave my boyfriend and hometown and yep move in with him. Stating I wouldn’t have to work and he would take care of me forever. Now i know this is mental, but every time I brought up how strange this behaviour was he would respond very aggressively but always with a a brilliant argument. Now he’s stopped talking to me because he said that I clearly didn’t feel the same way or I wudda got the ball rolling already. He did come off rather bullyish, but here’s the thing, I now cannot stop thinking about him. I want everything he offered, he was passionate, funny, charmingly odd… But that wudda been a bad move right? He’s clearly a freak?

Category: asked July 31, 2014

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What he was running was not a scam. He is a controller.

Controllers are a form of abusers. They have huge red flags such as insistence of quick commitment and aggressive behavior when you question them.

Here is a website designed to identify, survive and escape abusive relationships: http://newhopeforwomen.org/abuser-tricks
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he's definitely a creep, and its natural if you cant stop thinking about it, what he was offering was basically everyone's dream relationship, but its was a good call for you to deny.
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Hi Melly..yes, that's certainly odd behavior. Quite odd if i may add. You know, had you met this guy in person, as in not online, and had he given you a chance to get to know him a little to know him and for him to know you, it probably would have been a lil less odd and perhaps a bit more romantic. We are all enamored by the "mysterious" and the "not so normal" behavior at times. I guess thats why you are still thinking of him. I dont think the guy was a freak...I think he was brilliant if he could convince you with a valid argument about you leaving your life and moving in with someone you know for 30 mins, and that too online.My opinion - It would have been a bad move. Simply coz you dont know the guy. he may turn out to be the most perfect guy for you, but is that a chance worth taking?All the best
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Listen to your gut... when something is wrong that means something is
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I know it seems stupid I would even have to ask about this, but I wish u could see a transcript of the conversation. Anytime I said anything like "I would at least like to meet u face to face, cost this is pretty mad" he would kinda flip out be horrible to me and also amazingly honest combined with the nicest things anybody has ever said to me. Then id end up apologising. It was weird, and due to the fact I'm not very content with my life at the minute also quite alluring. He said he would do anything to keep me happy but I got the impression he would be a complete mental bully! I was literally frightened off upsetting him within the first day of conversation. It's left me feeling so weird
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You answered the question yourself...you say that you are not very content with your life at this moment. and he somehow caught on, and told you things which you perhaps wanted to hear at that time. I think he would be doing or having these similar conversations with several girls online...just trying to think if someone would really fall for his "charm". It is very easy for us to get distracted when someone / something is offering us what we dont have and what we desire. There is no harm in wanting more, but just be careful who you want it from. This guy would perhaps get what we wants and then move on
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Obviously its just a scam... *smh*
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Careful of sociopaths... they are very charming.
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He's a creep, get out of there now.
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He's probably some nasty 60 year old perv form Idaho. Who knows what could happen to you, you need to block him & never talk to him again.
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Yeah, you're definitely right about the controller thing. I made a comment at one point about me leaving somebody for him isn't the best basis for a trusting relationship and he responded with "well if u came and lived with me it would be fine, you wouldn't know anybody here" I did recognise it all, it just started off very flattering I guess. Feeling a bit winded, felt like I crammed a 10 year unpleasant relationship into a day and a half lol. Thanx for making me feel better about cutting him off