Kissing on the first date? Rules of thumb?

So this is a hotly debated topic: where do you all stand with kissing on the first date?

I will offer my opinion first: I would not be asking a woman out that I had no desire at all to kiss. Barring some sort of in-date disaster, I’m always going to go for the kiss on the first date. Maybe well-before we even say “goodnight.” In my experience, seizing that awesome opportunity to kind of sweep her off her feet is memorable, romantic and my style of doing things.

In my opinion, you can sense a lot out of kissing a girl for the first time and it will help you decide whether or not you want another date. I also believe that if you take the “respectful” route and don’t attempt to kiss her at all, she might end up confused or hurt somehow that you made no attempt.

This is strictly my opinion: where does everyone else stand on the issue?

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Get in the Tardis

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Hey!I think a kiss on the first date is okay, however, personally I think it's more respectful to wait. Save it for a better time, make it even more special. Plus, when you Don't kiss on your first date, it can show that you are sincere. That you don't kiss on all your first dates...ya know?You don't make her uncomfortable. If you really want to kiss her, then I think a kiss on the check or forehead before you drop her off is nice. Not too aggressive and you're still keeping the mood.This is just my opinion.xx

Definitely go for it

From a girls point of view, it honestly depends on how the date goes. If the date goes really awesome and I had a great time most of the time I want the guy to kiss me at the end. Or at least a hug or something. If they don't I feel like they don't like me or had a bad time. But if the date is just okay or I'm just not feeling that person I definitely don't want them to kiss me. So I say feel it out and see how it goes. If she seems like she's having a really good time then go for it! (:

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Brooke <3

Looking for tips on how to lure women into your snogbox, I see. Scoundrel.

It is up to the individual. You can work asking about their rules on first-date kissing into a Rhett Butler-worthy first kiss.

Part of the fun is the mystery and the effort put into learning. Pick up Robert Greene's book "The Art of Seduction". The book is fantastic.

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Humanist Hope

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Speaking from a guy's point of view. I say it's all good. As long as you're not confusing the girl. I mean if you're on a date with her, that means you are pursuing her, courting her. Nothing wrong with showing that physically. If that's not she rolls, she would not get offended unless she is deeply, deeply conservative. And I'd honestly not have a girl who is deeply deeply conservative anyway. So go for it. If she accepts your kiss its a win. If she doesn't it's not a lose as long as you showed her a great time and she's interested in you.

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imdown

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Go for it! I mean don't catch her so off guard that the kiss turns out bad anyways but why not kiss on the first date? There's really nothing bad about it. Like you said, "you can sense a lot out of kissing a girl for the first time and it will help you decide whether or not you want another date." So I say kiss her, especially if you're getting those vibes ya know...

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Pipsy

As a girl, I don't mind a little peck after a first date. It shows that you had a great time and that you care, but don't have the kiss last for more than a second, you gotta keep it slow and simple. I don't see it as disrespectful or pushing it, I take it as a compliment.

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†☯Ridacy☯†

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