People say, “Jokes are just jokes.” People say, “There shouldn’t be any limitations.” i.e. black comedy or murder, suicide, depression, drug abuse, terminal illness, domestic violence, sexual violence, cheating, pedophilia, racism, sexism. That it is just thing-skinned to be so up tight. Is the offended wrong? Are there things you can’t joke about? Something along the lines of another’s career, morals, etc. or are they okay too? Do jokes reflect pretty much what the joker thinks is truth?
People with dark senses of humor, who make seemingly over the line jokes, mostly do so for two reasons.One reason is simply for the shock value. It's amusing for everyone with the right audience.The other reason is that it can be a way to process and deal with the more depressing side of humanity. What better way to deal with such a hard topic than to turn around and laugh at it?I think it's often the case that comedians who make jokes about topics mentioned above genuinely feel horror, disgust, and sadness like a normal human beings. Making jokes about these things allows for a commentary/dialogue about them that isn't depressing as hell.
In my opinion, it really depends who you're telling the joke to and how well you know them, this way you can judge how they'll react and whether or not they'll be offended by it. For example, using black comedy with a black women you just met on the street might not be such a good idea, but using black comedy with no harm intended with a black friend who you're close with and you two joke around like that all the time in a playful way can be fine.
With that in mind I don't think it's wrong for someone to be offended. There are definitely a lot of offensive jokes and people are affected differently by them. Even though it might just be a joke it's possible that people aren't aware it's joke and won't find it funny, which is essentially the goal of a joke; to be funny.
Like I mentioned before, everything depends on who you're joking with, so with one person there may be certain jokes that are off limits and with another person it's fine. So there aren't really any set rules about what or what not to joke about as long as it's all in good fun and no harm is intended, though it's important to keep in mind the limits specific to that person.
I feel like a lot of people can be touchy about their career and their morals, I'm not saying not to joke about it, but before you do make sure it's obvious that it's joke and that the person will find it funny and won't take it personally. I find topics like that is usually more making fun of a person and not so much a joke, even if it's meant to be funny. So again it really depends on how well you know the person and whether it actually is funny or whether it's rude.
Sometimes, like with careers and morals, jokes can definitely reflect what the joker thinks is the truth. Not so much with stuff such as simple as a kids knock knock jokes though. Because it can reflect the truth I think it's important to be careful when telling these kinds of jokes. Although they're not off limits for everyone, I would stay away from that just for that reason; it can reflect the truth, and even though a person may laugh, they may actually be offended by it.
Jokes are jokes. People that are too stiff to loosen up and laugh at anything are no fun to be around. Nothing should be "off limits". Timing matters a lot more than subject matter. There are times and places in which no one should joke. Most would not joke about a serious medical emergency. I, once, had to have an unexpected, sudden emergency surgery on my face/jaw that left a pretty good-sized, deep scar. I was absolutely terrified, it all happened so quickly. One minute I was visiting friends, the next I was having a huge hole cut into my jaw. Horrified at the situation, I turned to my family for support and all I heard from them was, "at least you'll have a place to store nuts for the winter...can you stick your tongue through there? etc...). Lighten up and laugh...the more serious a person is, the more boring and less fun that person tends to be. As far as jokers making light of the truth?...sometimes, but not always. Most of that is sarcasm, like, being extremely politically incorrect just to raise eyebrows. That's my opinion and I'm sticking to it. I'm going to go finish my heroin and vodka now. Hmm...am I being sarcastic? Am I an alcoholic junkie...? Ha! I'll never tell :)
i think timming is everything........there are some jokes i have heard and were offfended by some 20 years ago.....the very same jokes when I hear them today, are funny , I laugh my ass off when I hear them.
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