So Im kind of the type of person you would see alone alot, especially now that my bestfriend has moved away. I was wondering if there were ways of helping myself get over this intense feeling of lonliness. I always just feel like nothing is going to be better for me and that im destined to spend my life alone. I dont have very many people. And most of the time I am by my self or sitting with my mom. I mean i love my mom, but I’m just not happy. Im the type of person that is happy when im around people, ive just never made friends easily because i am kind of awkward. Any suggestions on supressing this lonley feeling? Its so painful. Im just trying so hard to get people to care about me, and its straining everything i have annd i just need help.
Im sure most people at some point have felt this way, myself included. Although everyone is different a few options would be to distract your mind with a hobby, get an animal, actually put on a mask of confidence and greet people. Dont dwell on the fact but use it to find something better. You may find something you really like to do and in turn, people will join you. People are attracted to happiness, contentment, and intrest.
You will not be lonely for the rest of your life, I promise! Before you can find others, you have to find yourself. Think about your interests and try to join a group that revolves around that interest. For example, if you like to play soccer, try out for your school soccer team. If you can't seem to find anything, try to look up some options online.
I'm sure you're not fat and ugly, in fact you are really pretty! Just be yourself and find people who have similar interests and see if you can get along well and I'm sure a friendship will blossom. But at the same time, don't force yourself onto others, just let it happen.
I was exactly like you, exactly. what you need to do is go out and buy something nice and shave,shampoo, pluck your eyebrows or stuff like that. trust me you'll feel good when you look good. or go out and buy novels or do both or do whatever make you feel happy. When youre happy, you'll have confidence, when you have confidence, youre no longer afraid. Then you can start talking to people, even a simple 'hey' goes a long way. If you think you are destined to live your life alone then you should know youre wrong, you are what you are now or in the future its all because of you, no one decide your life but you honey. oh and most importantly is just be yourself someone would love you just the way you are. Goodluck
Thats the thing guys ive done all this ive tried being more open and people look at me weirdly, start talking about me behind my bacdk and just treat me wrong. I tried joining sports teams and cliubs and talking to people and still they pretend like i dont exist. I just dont know what i can do anymore. I honestly think people dont want to hang around me simply because i am fat and ugly.. :(
Like some other here,it is true that most of us at some point or another felt much like you do at the moment. May be try and put out an open invitation to to something ,perhaps the movies and to as many people as you can and see who shows up and start new friendships with those who come. Just a thought!