Is this worth it?

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so I’m talking to this guy, I really like him.. We’ve been talking for months now. we’ve met and we’ve hung out. We seem to have hit it off really well. We never dated though. but we act as if we are. sometimes i go over and hang out with him and his friends. he seems to have no problems showing his friends he really likes me. yet i always see him talking to other girls while im there. so i get insecure. and also… we go without talking for a while… im always asking why we wont officially date since we pretty much already are. but he wont tell me. and today i asked him if it was worth it… i was feeling really depressed so i of course second guess everything. he mentioned we might as well just stay friends.. and it broke my heart. i dont know what to do. im just..trying not to cry.

Category: Tags: asked June 30, 2014

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Hey Bryantkhale,I think (based off personal experience) he's probably unsure. as cheesy as it sounds, it honest to god wasn't you. He wasn't sure if he wanted you or one of the other girls he is talking to. I'm not going to say he's Ana whore or a player, but based off his reaction to your ultimatum he was definitely leading you on. I think that at some point during your courting he decided he didn't want to date you. And he put you on the back burner (hence the not talking for long periods and avoiding the why aren't we dating question). Which is why when you have him the ultimatum, he bailed. Lots of guys do this. I've done it. And it's really awful. We don't see the impact it has on the women we use. So don't go beating yourself up over this tool. Instead, move on; you're better than him! You don't need him to be happy! There are plenty of guys out there that are genuinely interested in you and won't use you.I really hope I helped and that you'll feel better c: Good luck!! ~Soulless-Infinity
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Right now, I think that you guys should just stay friends, you are really good friends!, but try to stay calm and sooner or later you might be a couple!!! i also do think that he could like you and some other girl too. i don't mean to be mean by any standards.
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From your account, it was your insecurity that did you in, Miss Hale. He liked you just fine, but he was turned off by your insecurity, and in all likelihood, he's not ready to date exclusively. He may not even be monogamous.

Let this one go and move on. You do yourself a disservice by troubling yourself with it any further.