Is there really such a thing as too late?

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I lost my kids 6 years ago. My mother had me declared unfit, and my rights were stripped. She then proceeded to adopt them, by law. She told my kids that I have died. She did the same thing to my sister and I when we were young. I didn’t meet my father until I was 17. We thought he was dead. Is there any chance that my kids will learn the truth and come find me? Or have I lost them forever?

Category: asked October 7, 2015

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In this case, I do not believe it's too late. It's much easier to find someone and get in touch with them than it used to be. Even if you can't take them back, your children deserve to know the truth that their mother isn't really dead. That's a horrible lie to plant into someone's head, and it was wrong of your mother to do that to them, whether you were fit for them or not. I'd suggest possibly taking legal action against this to find out if you can see your children again.
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I'm sorry if I offend you, but I think it's quite weird taking your kids away without having any proof you had done some damage to your kids.. if you didn't do anything wrong,get a lawyer. If you can't, you can try to talk to the local police, tell what happened, and ask them which is the best way to communicate with them? Nowdays we have facebook, letters, e-mails, I mean.. tons of ways to contact each other. Just ask them which is the best way to procede in this very specific case
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I'm not offended mariko. But I never said there was no proof. I am a recovering addict. And at the time I was pretty heavy into my drugs. I never harmed my kids, but I wasn't able to be a mother at the time either. I was supposed to get a year to get my shit together, but I kept relapsing. I will be the first to admit that the kids shouldn't have been with me at the time. My mother fought to have my rights stripped, and I didn't have the money to fight her. She is a multimillionaire. I make $360 a week. I didn't stand a chance. My kids are doing great, they are happy and healthy. They want for nothing. My issue is not losing them. My issue is my mother keeping me from them, and having them believe that I'm dead. If I try to contact them, she gets restraining orders against me. She threatened to have me arrested if I ever step foot on her property. She did the same thing to my father. We grew up believing him to be dead. I didn't meet him until I was 17. She also threatened him with law enforcement if he ever tried to contact us. It is happening all over again.
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Millionaire or not, if you demonstrably clean up your life, you have a solid chance in a courtroom to earn visitation to your children. Their only case against you is your addiction and use. Clear any evidence that that is still the case and their entire argument flies out the window.

You do not have to be gainfully employed to earn visitation of your children, that would be if you were fighting for your rights back, but since you just want your children to know you are not dead, a courtroom would be compassionate to a person in such a position, but only so long as you make your image squeaky-clean and transparent.