is there any way to have real feelings?

I agree with everyone else's encouragement to read and reflect upon the things you have experienced. Encountering new martial may allow you to get new ideas or feel something. Moreover, looking at you experiences may encourage your writing to become more connected with your senses.To be honest, I sympathized with you as soon as I saw your question, " Is there anyway to have real feelings?" I apologize right now if you don't feel connected to what I am about to say. But, I can't help thinking the same exact phrase when I write as well. I write a lot of poems/stories about corruption, abuse, and death, and I for one have not experienced some of those listed things. I feel disconnected at the end of a verse. So, I think is this what I really am. Again, I'm sorry if this is not what you were feeling as you wrote this. I just want to know, I have had the same words in my head. Yet, I found that reading did help... I also found that talking to others helped as well. Just listening to the words, and my thoughts as they left my lips made me feel connected to what I wanted my writing to be about...still, if you are introverted I don't want to see you push yourself. Maybe, what would help would be to keep a dream journal. I mean, I read a psyche book once, and it said that dreams can show some of our subconscious thoughts. So, why not get in touch with that? even if you are the type that does not dream often, when you have the rare moment that you do you feel something. I know that I have. Also, I suggest writing when you just feel something. Again, I apologize if I'm not following what you were asking about correctly. But, I just know that no one is without feeling, at least not completely. I normally feel so disconnected from myself. But, I just sometimes get a burst of something occasionally. when that happens it's the best. Yet, if you don't wish to do so that's fine. I just recommend. taking the time to look at things new and old, and read, and dream, and maybe talk. Who knows maybe you will feel something new. But, regardless I sympathize.I'm sorry if this wasn't what you are looking for, but I really get the sense that you could be great. It's just finding what you have been ignoring, or missing is what is causing these thoughts. If you wish to spend some time bouncing ideas off I don't mind doing so. You are more than welcome to PM me. I really hope things will resolve themselves, you seem like a kind writer.

As a fellow poet, my suggestion to you is to read. Learn the perspectives of those who have gone through the emotions which you are trying to convey. You literally cannot explain something you have not experienced, it is the same as you cannot dream about a person you have not met.

Read and explore the breadths and depths of human expression and it will yield the perspective you need.

What I do is reflect on thing that has actually happened to me and try to remember what i felt, and i focus on that feeling and write poetry or songs about it. Good luck out there, hope this helps.

One of my favorite musical artists was asked why he always writes songs about abuse, drugs, bad relationships, and broken hearts. His answer? It's easier. He is a positive person living a happily married life. He finds it very difficult to write about happy things, but he is a prolific writer when it comes to negative things. Even though you don't relate to the things you are writing about, the fact that others think it is good should make you proud. You may have even helped someone through your writing, and if so, what greater writing accomplishment than that can one do? I'd say try to connect to what moves you, good or bad. Sit down and let your thoughts go right to your hand. Sometimes the best writing occurs like that, without the filter of the mind. I'll be the first one to say I am no expert on this, and I don't know about taking it to the next level. But unless it is for a school assignment and the teacher wants things done a particular way, screw convention. Do what feels right to you. After all, these are your writings, done your way. That's what makes it so personal. And that's what will make them so unique.

Hmm... "connect" :/ If you really want to write a poem that has an impact and is life changing to people going through these things. Connection is not enough. You have to be able to create "feelings" and that needs "creativity". Also that needs you to be able to use the right words in order to express yourself. It needs much more creativity when you have not experience it, and not only that, but also lots of research pertaining the topic you want to write about. So I suggest you do more research on it instead of waiting for the "connection" to just take over you. Reading about it would help you get some understanding to the situation in a deeper level.

http://hellopoetry.com/poem/666173/amanda/hows that for feeling i didn't ask you about feelings, if you don't have in answer, don't answer the question. :(

i think you should start writing a journal, but not with vague entries but entries that are in depth about your thoughts and feelings. even the smallest things like feeling angry at your best friend can trigger intense anger and as you write angry poems you can feel a connection :)

Hi teaminone, I don't think its neither nice you snap on me for being honest and I had an answer which I gave. Your title clearly states "Is there any way to have real feelings?" then coming on to your question you elaborate on that, about 90%+ of your answers talked about feelings. Then some talked about "emotions" and one didn't mention none of those words. Maybe it's better to say that if you don't want a honest helpful answer then why put out the question? I'm being honest and said similar things to the others. The thing that probably bothered you is that I said "connection is not enough" and that's the truth. I read that poem but you want to improve right? If you don't want to improve then I understand, but if you do want to improve don't tell me to not answer because I didn't necessarily say what you were expecting to hear. I am not going to comment on that poem as that is not what this question was for plus I don't want to have any issues with you. Don't be discouraged in writing, but understand that to get better you need feedback. I also write. I am sharing what took me long to get, because like you I thought It had to just come over me like a "connection" but it wasn't that way. Maybe somedays it is but many days it's not that way. Anyways, I did no crime in answering your question, I wasn't vulgar or anything like that to be treated that way from you. I don't mind if you thumb me down because after all it's your choice. You didn't like my answer, it's normal. I don't blame you, everyone in the world can't "like" the same thing but, you can also not tell me to not answer on your own side. I wasn't rude, belittling, vulgar or mean to you and answered just on point if you re-read what I wrote clearly. Thank you for being honest with how you view my answer though, I appreciate it.

@Blossoming_road i'm sincerely sorry for what i said to you. at the time i was mad, my mind was clouded and it looked to me (at the time) that you were avoiding to question. but now i realize you're heart is in the right place, it was mine that was not. so i hope you can accept my apology, i really didn't mean what i said.

@teaminone - Apology accepted -