Is she cheating?

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The girl I am seeing was talking to an old high school guy friend on facebook. Because of past indiscretions, we agreed not to “talk” to the opposite sex anymore. When I would ask, she would say she wasn’t doing that. Then one night after a concert she invited me to, she was on her phone and when I looked she tried to hide it. I asked who it was but she refused to show me and said I would over react. So I left and looked and she and he had fb messaged like 400 times in 2 weeks, at the concert and while I was laying next to her.

After some prodding, she deleted him. About a month later, she said her facebook was hacked. I looked and this guy was added back as a friend. I asked her why she didn’t delete him and she said she was afraid of pissing someone off. Then she liked one of his responses to her post about a movie. I said that doesn’t sound like your afraid of him and she said she didn’t think it was him who hacked her but deleted him again.
Now she says she was hacked again and he was added. I got upset but she won’t delete him. She says he doesn’t show up on her friends list when she looks but wouldn’t go on the computer right next to us to try and find him. It has been a month and she is adamant that she is not talking to him but refuses to give me a reason not to delete him.
He lives in Maryland and is married. We live in Texas.
Should I talk to him? His wife? Drop it because I am overreacting? Or just dump the girl?
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she said she got hacked and he reappeared but then 2 weeks later deleted again
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now she is hacked again and he is back but she won’t delete him
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says he doesn’t show up on her fb friends and lots of weird stuff keeps happening
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Now she won’t answer when I ask why she won’t delete him. he lives in maryland, married, and we live in texas
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I all but accused her of lying about the hacking but said I would let it go if she deleted him. its been a month and no delete.
should I talk to him? his wife? or drop it because I am overreacting?

Category: Tags: asked October 22, 2014

5 Answers

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Relationships can't work when there is dishonesty and secrecy going on. If she isn't being honest, let the relationship go. She seems to have her own stuff to work on.
Everyone deserves a relationship that is built on honesty and trust. Including you and including her.
Let the relationship go, honestly.
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She is probably rebeling beacause y'all made that rule. idk just my thoughts.
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First things first, don't talk to neither him nor his wife, they are not your problem.
Your issue is with the girl you're seeing. Her actions are suspicious and it seems there isn't much trust left. I don't know what you mean by "Because of past indiscretions", but deciding not to talk to the opposite sex anymore is surely not the way to go, not if you're planning on staying together. At this stage I would say get out of the relationship, but if you want to give it one last shot, talk to her and loosen some constraints (especially those along the line of not talking to the opposite sex), and see if she'll still be dishonest.
Good luck!
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You need trust and honesty for a relationship to last, it sounds like you have neither. Maybe she feels like she can't approach you with her problem or maybe she has some ulterior motive. You don't want to assume or jump to conclusions. Talk to her about why this upsets you but if it keeps happening it may be a sign that the relationship just isn't working out. It is tough to lose someone but in the end there is just as likely to be someone better down the road.
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I hope this doesn't come across as offensive, but I think you're getting/have become far too possessive over her. As Sarah said, the rule in the first place (with all due respect) was ridiculous, and in turn has probably caused her to want to defy it. I don't think you should be pointing fingers until you know what kind of messages have been sent, it's OK and normal to have friends of the opposite gender.