I have been thinking and pondering my current status , and it’s something that I think it is best for my interest since I’m really no good at relationships with just one person and it’s hard for me to give some affection and attention if they don’t appreciate it and or take it for granted. So is it wrong for me to not be in a relationship since Im not good at it?
I find it more better for me to not deal with heartache , and endless chatter of why it didn’t work. When instead I can avoid all that and just live on my own , no one to answer to , and be myself without some trying to change who I am.
Everyone's different. You don't need to fit into a cookie cutter mold of what society expects you to be. In the end, what really matters is your happiness and satisfaction with your life. And if you find your life just as happy and satisfactory alone, why complicate and jeopardize it by adding unnecessary details?
Do I sense a people pleaser?
I suggest just having some time for yourself and just do the fun things you want to do! Once you feel good about yourself and just do things that make you happy, you will look happy. Happy people just have other people flock to them you know. Those people won't ''suck'' your energy because you won't have to put much energy in them to make them feel happy (that is what people pleasers often do). AND! the kind of people that come to you, always really appreciate your company :3
It's okay to want to be alone for a while though, just remember to not completely shut others out . Mend the broken parts but not build an extra wall you know?
it is okay to want to be alone and not get in a relationship,i feel the exact same way,and i got an advice which i'll pass on to you,if you want to be alone then that's absolutely fine but remember that you cannot be alone forever,at some point of your life you will need someone and being alone won't be comfortable so even though every relationship includes heartache it is better to take it now than when you are older(it will hurt less) think of it as an experience or even training.and if you want to be alone make sure that you really want to and not that you are afraid of relationships .and never ever change for anyone no matter who stay the awesome way you are :) .i hope i helped
There's a question here. No, you don't need to have a relationship to meet societal standards or some normalcy bullshit, and if you don't need a relationship to make you happy, good for you. I'm like that too, I keep getting bored of girls/guys I meet after a week or two, so I stay where I am romantically and fulfill myself by doing interesting things with my life. On the other hand, if you really do want a relationship, but are running away from it because it's been painful in the past, that's not really a healthy way to deal with things. Letting fear hold you back from what you really want is never a good thing. You can honestly do whatever you want, it's your life, but make sure you understand why you're doing it and if your reaction is the best response to that impulse.