Is it wrong to keep everything to yourself?

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I usually am not an open person, and I barely ask anyone for help with my problems. It’s easiest for me to not talk about my problems, but now my best friend wants me to tell her everything about my past. I don’t know if I can. I really hate how I keep everything in, but it’s harder for me to let it out. That’s why I’m wondering if it’s wrong to keep everything to yourself..

Tags: asked May 29, 2014

7 Answers

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It is very unhealthy to keep everything bottled up to yourself for so long. If you're afraid to open up to your friend try it a little at a time, and if it comes out faste than that don't be worried, its completely normal
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Start with something small, and be sure to tell your friend how hard it is for you to talk. Work your way up to the hardest stuff.
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Don't be pressured into telling them anything till your ready. It's unhealthy to keep harmful thoughts to yourself and sometimes if you tell someone else about your problems they seem smaller and easier to handle. You are allowed to be picky about who you talk about yourself to, Make sure it's someone you trust, that you can explain to that you are new to talking about your problems and that they respect that. Best of luck
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You don't have to tell her what you don't want her to know. But you should definitely talk to someone and vent every now and then. It may be hard to talk about, but once it's off your chest, it can feel so much better.
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Don't tell her anything that you don't want to! Seriously. If you feel like it is time to open up a little bit, do so at your own pace and not because she is pressuring you. My brother once gave me the best advice. He said "you don't have to do anything you don't want to." Keeping things inside can be a personal way of processing our pasts. There is nothing wrong with it. If you feel like you might want to open up someday a close friend can be a great option but also consider therapy! They are professionals and love to listen.xoxox k
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It's not healthy to keep everything inside, but that doesn't mean you have to let it all out at once if you don't want to. It's important to completely trust and be comfortable with the person before you start talking about what's wrong.
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I don't think it IS necessarily bad to hold things in. That being said, make sure that you have somebody you CAN talk to should you feel like your thoughts are getting dangerously low (considering harm or suicide). It's important to find a balance between sharing your thoughts and being able to vent, and trying to let yourself help yourself in overcoming your problems. :)